Roulette, thanks for the words of support and advice from the female perspective. As for OM, he hurt his finger bad in his line of work real bad a while ago and it got infected which he ignored (like guys do). When he finally went to the doctor they sent him to a specialist because the infection was so bad that they may need to amputate. She says the only contact she has with him is to check on his finger because it is something that truly concerns her. I guess I can understand that, because he is imfamous for this kind of thing in regard to injuries, not going to the doctor and letting them get to a very bad state before seeking attention. As for the DBing principles I feel they are a very important part of where we are now. Before I let all of the initial begging crying and pleading pass she wanted little to do with me. Only when I decided I loved her enough to be her unconditional friend, and give her the time and space she requested and needed, did I begin to see any change in our status. First she slowly began to feel more comfortable around me and began to initiate contact with me that slowly got more frequent. After a long while we became friends again, and then things progressed from there to where we are now. When I strayed from DBing I always noticed a backslide. When I stuck to my DBing is when things went in the right direction. I hope that answers your question.
Seeker, at this point we are not home together, we are still separated, and in regard to letting thing happen naturally I guess that is something only she knows and she will know when things feel right to her. I wish I knew more, but I don't and there is nothing I can do about that but be patient and be here for her in any way I can.
Crish, Thanks for the reading references. Understanding communication issues is of such great importance. Good for you in your taste in wedding presents, I wish someone had done that for W and I. If only I knew then what I know now about relationships, marriage, and communication with the fairer sex. Wow! how different my life would have probably been.
I will update you as thing change/hopefully progress,
