So in other words....He is probably leaving because he does have someone that he want to try with. I should just let him leave and see if she is better than me...and if she isnt...let him come home and see if it will work out. I really love him and I am trying to distance myself but I really dont want him to go....our money will be hard to do anything. I dont want to give up but if I must let him go and find his way I guess that I must.
Oh...by the way! Another thing that he said to me was....If I ever cheated on him he would be gone in a second. He doesnt understand how I can try and work on our marriage and forgive him. He said that he has lost a little respect in me because I am so easy to forgive. I told him that my marriage was sacred to me and I married in sickness and in health unyil death do us part. I let him know that I wanted to give it one try and work through this. I also said that everyone can make a mistake it just cant keep happening. I also forgot to tell you all that I have a wonderful step son that I think of as my own....I dont want to lose him too! We have him every other weekend...but last time we had him he asked his dad why he doesnt care about me anymore. H didnt answer him. We never argue or fight in front of him. His actions must be showing. Why do I allow this. Our own child picked up on it. I am a really screwed up person...huh!
DON'T LISTEN to what H says. He'll say whatever he feels he needs to say at this moment, and it's all based on his feelings. But feelings change.
If he's expressing a contempt for you, claiming it was your ability to forgive... let that comment roll of your back, it is MEANINGLESS. One day, he might very well feel that it was a great thing that you were able to forgive him.
The reason he's showing contempt for you is because you are PURSUING him by way of telling him how the "marriage is sacred" to you and will end when you die, and so forth. See my other post to you in your "I'm Confused" thread, where I explain WHY it is that such talk is counterproductive.
