Well, I've been on and off here the last couple of days (snowed in here, the weather in this country is foul).
I text H and said I wanted to inform people we are 'dating' by April 30. I said we could keep it a secret until then with my blessing, but after that I wanted to be honest (stops him from mucking around indefinitely and never committing).
Then I said 'please can I have our dd's on Tuesday?'
Now I am terrified, I usually wait for him to bring them to me and I don't want a resurgence of old behaviour (as was during the court battle).
I also don't know if I did the right thing setting down boundaries with the dating. I'm scared I might frighten him away, but I wanted to do it for me, does that make sense? so I'm not his illicit affair for the rest of my life and we can have a grown up relationship. Only, it might have been too soon to mention it.
Do you think I've blown the DB'ing or was that an okay thing to do?
Jo
PS: I haven't called him and not going to, just left it as a text. Will see him Saturday.
You have put it out there, now back off. The other thing that I believe that if someone is really interested a couple of suggestions isn't going to scare them away. You did well, now sit back. No one knows what will happen. That is the nature of life.
