I like the idea of this forum. The divorce ball is picking up momentum in my situation, but I haven't completely given up hope---yet. I know I should, but something just keeps me hanging on and hoping against all hope.
My 2/2 court date was postponed because h. had not completed paperwork in time for my L. and I to preview it before the hearing. New date is scheduled for 3/9. I felt I had a small reprieve when the Feb. 2 date was cancelled, but I know it was just prolonging the agony. Yet I guess I believe in miracles.
Does anyone else get over-stressed when there is a message, paperwork, letter for L. etc.? This is a horrible way to live, yet I just cannot agree that there are "irreconcilable differences". I just cannot bring myself to say "this is enough. Let's get this over with". I am so against it both for moral reasons and personal/selfish reasons.
I'm certainly not "done" and don't know if I ever will be.
I know what you mean Vee. I am waiting for something from the courts telling me my date. I know my L had to go to set dates but I don't want to call him to find out. I probably should but I am avoiding it and don't look forward to getting my mail each day as I don't believe in all of this either for moral reasons mostly and for personal/selfish reasons as well - same as you - also - nothing is irreconcilable if we would both want to work on it and in my case things really weren't that bad to begin with I don't think. All I can think is that the new GF gives good BJs - what else could be the attraction (is that nasty?)
If somewhere down the road you are forced to agree that the marriage has "irreconcilable differences" think of it the way many others have...the ireconcilable difference was caused by a man who refused to work on the marriage. If one refuses to work on issues what chance of resolving differences would there be.
When you think of it that way, it helps...hope you never have to....
Gigi
"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar
