Quote: My God, I'm so sorry to read this. Please disregard what I wrote earlier.
You have my deepest compassion and sympathy. I really am so sorry to read about your difficulty in getting through the appointment.
Thanks...
Quote: How did she react to see you this way? Was she crying also?
I think she was crying - my eyes were shut, I couldn't open them, but her hand felt like she was crying, she kept stroking my hand to comfort me.
But she was being the strong one, because she saw me being weak. We trade roles, depending on who needs to be supported. She was listening very carefully, not just to the words, and gently, carefully asked questions, testing the water to see if I could deal with the questions, feeling her way...
Quote: I have to say that your last post just about made me break out in tears and that is very hard to do..I'm not one to cry easily.
Thanks for feeling what I was feeling. I'm glad it came through.
Quote: Your pain is palpable. I think a breather from work and perhaps a solitary vacation would do wonders for you. You really ought to consider it.
That's a good idea. I have to think about how I would do that. Our college daughter is coming for the weekend, and I have some big projects weighing down on me...
Quote: I feel just like HP. I so wish that I could give you a real hug. What you are going through is a kind of grief. Be kind to yourself and take care.
Grief - yes, that's it. Thanks for supplying that word, I hadn't recognized it as such, and the clarity is helpful.
Jonathon: I feel for you, too. Whether your wife is gay or asexual, the result is the same for you. And the effect on your marriage is the same. I'm with HP on the solitary vacation idea.
I told my boss that I'm going through some hard things in my personal life - he'd been observing that something was going on. He suggested that I take whatever time I need. But the projects are still pretty heavy, I'll have time for a few days off, I think.
