The books are in the relationship section of the bookstore.
If you don't think telling is right then don't . We just wanted you to know that most affairs are not total secret and because you ended it there is the chance that OW will tell someone who will tell your wife if she didn't want it to end. Protect your wife and children from this at all cost. Not saying she will but you do run the chance of it happening. I hope and pray that it all works out for you. Keep on working on your marriage and yourself.
I wish my H had tried but the OW won out in the end. He loves her so I'm disposable as is our marriage. D day is in a month. I still pray and hope something will change but don't hold out much chance of it. Best of luck.
Doing good! It is still pretty easy I am so much happier not doing such bad things anymore. I felt like a creep all the time still do a little. I just can't beleive that was me. I still need to get to the bookstore and do some reading. I ran across the OW on the street the other day I felt bad for a split second for kind of ignoring her (I did gesture hi, no smile or anything) but I know that is how it has to be. I don't hate her or want to be mean or anything, I just won't have anything to do with her nothing bad nothing good just nothing. She did email me telling me how sad she is and some other stuff to make me feel guilty, I do feel bad that I'm causing her to feel bad, but as cold as it sounds i don't worry about it but hopefully she will realize it is over for good soon enough and be over it? Those two sentences are the most I've thought or talked about OW in two weeks.
Things with the W and kids are better than ever and it just makes me realize how lucky I am and what a great thing I have and how dumb I was to risk ruining it.
I plan to keep checking in here for support, but so far I'm doing pretty good. I would really like to also help people in my situation or keep them from having an A before it happens. Unfortunately people usually end up here after the fact. I wish I would have had this resource before I screwed up. Getting the advice and support has been awesome, but also just reading the pain that is caused by A's showed me how bad what I was doing and the pain I was risking my entire family.
I don't have alot of time to browse the message boards here but if you ever see someone asking for help in a similar situation as me I would love to try and help or give them support.
