scared it will happen again

[c1t]

Hi

I really need some advice.
My H left home about 8 months ago. He had various issues including feeling trapped/ no control and unhappy etc etc.
There has been no other woman involved at any time
Over the past 8 months we have slowly rebuilt the relatonship. He now stays with us 3/4 times a week, he has said he still loves me and we still have a physical relationship.
He now also talks more openly about what went wrong and how he feels. I have followed DB for the whole time and have found it really good.
The problem we now face is this.............
My H says that the reason he will not come back full time at the moment is because he is scared, and he still thinks there is a chance that it could go wrong again.
That is the main reason.
What can I do???
The only way I see him overcoming this is when he starts beleiving again that it could work, but how can he do this?
I know I could try to convince him until I am blue in the face but I also know this is the not the answer. He has beleive it himself.
I feel like we have kind of reached stalemate, because I do not know where to go from here.
Things are good between us at the moment, and it seems to be the one fear that is stopping him from committing back to us 100%.

Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

[maya]

I just posted to you over in newcomers... I think that people here in piecing will have great advice for you...and you are close to piecing...

I also think that you may get a greater response in newcomers... um hard to say.

Perhaps you might pick ONE of the two forums and stick with that. It will make it easier for people to follow your situation and give you advice. Either forum would be appropriate...

just a thought

maya

[sage]

What if you guys talked about a "plan" -- some way that he could tell you "hey, I feel like things might be taking a turn for the worse" and then you could both course correct?

Or...would he be the type of person who would be interested in the KLA tapes? Maybe "working" on something together would alleviate some of his concerns.

Congrats on how far you've come!

Sage