I hear you about growing up in an alcoholic family. I like to think my brother and I are close, but I'm reminded frequently that he likes to keep his distance.
My W and I have few common friends, and we are slowly trying to improve that situation. I know I will have to become more receptive to hearing about other people's problems if I want them to weigh in on mine.
Quote: So, when you suggested that you both use debit cards rather than credit cards did your wife agree or did she remain silent? If she remained silent, then you may need to discuss it again listing out your reasons for preferring debit cards and find out if you wife agrees. Secondly, if credit cards are an option that can be used, the two of you should determine what the criteria for a credit card purchase should be. Depending on the status of your finances, credit card purchases/limits should be established.
Off topic, but this is absolutely reasonable for married people and others whose finances are mingled and one of the main reasons that I will never combine my finances with anyone ever again. Yesterday I found a workshop I wanted to go to and signed up for it, all $600+ of it-- with NO ONE to consult or negotiate with. I told my bf afterward that I had done it, and he was nothing but happy for me. How different from the joint checking account days! But I will add that it would have been fine with my late H for me to do such a thing-- I would have consulted him first with something like "There's this really great workshop I want to take and it's kind of expensive." He would have said, "That's fine. Do it." But I even had a bf once who didn't want me to go off and have any fun without him. In that case, finances were not the issue since we were financially separate... he just wanted me to have all my fun with him. <now returning this thread to the regularly scheduled topic>
Manks, I'm not a particularly private person and have several really close girlfriends, some of them going back to high school... we've been together through thick and thin. And yes I do confide in them. We share some pretty intimate stuff... but it's very supportive and we do not indulge in bashing each other's partners. I'm blessed with some pretty wonderful girlfriends and I'm very grateful for the support I get from them. (We're a bit like the girls on Sex and the City, dialed down a notch or two. )My bf, like virtually ALL the men I've known, has no friends that he confides in to that level.
You know, with us it's not about money so much as it is about time. If I want to go to a conference, I have to get the time off from my W. The money is secondary. This is a real drag. I'd forgo my Popeye's chicken sandwiches if I didn't have to report for babysitting duty on a regular basis.
I think money issues are more important for my W. This perhaps because she is more likely to spend it.
Paul, whose favorite TV personality is probably Ray Romano
NOPKins I'm back and I'm still lost on how to keep this thread in y favorites. I've followed Mrs instructions and it just doesn't stick where old threads like "running on empty" have been there for months. After seeing our daughter off to her formal W and I went to dinner and a movie, Aviator, not exactly a fun uplifting movie. W was different at dinner. This time she didn't emote about my past injustices. She didn't like the movie. I new about Hughe's paranoia but I thought there would be a lot more about his flying and accomplishments. After the movie we returned home and I gave her a good night kiss and got a "peck" in return. We're not at counseling this weekend because W is so busy. In phone call with C, W told C her feelings have not changed and I sense detachment. All of you out there, who has experienced this pleasant lull and what am I to make of it?
Have you had a chance to get that book and read it? You need to do this ASAP. Don't share the book with your wife. Just you read it for now.
On the toggle, it must be a browser issue with you, probably a cookie or security setting. I don't use a microsoft browser, so I would be o little help - sorry.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
TAG -
on the thread thing, I wonder - are you hitting "view all" on your my home page? The newer threads (rather unituitively) show up at the end of the list, and you have to view the whole list to see the new ones. There is NO reason this should not work for you, as I have never seen another user have problems. So regretfully, I have to tell you that the dominant hypothesis here is that is user error.
Also - NOPkins, This is not a browser issue. it is a server issue, as your favorites are maintained on the DB server. The only cookie the site seems to keep is your login info. It is also not a Microsoft issue, BTW - this server runs on Linux. There are a load of bugs on this site (e.g. autologin doesnt work, can't PM other users) but this isn't one of them.
Sorry, I make my living on this stuff and feel the need to correct misperceptions. Not always Microsoft's fault.
Quote: ----------- Sorry, I make my living on this stuff and feel the need to correct misperceptions. Not always Microsoft's fault. -----------
No misconceptions here.
I was doing hardware design long before stealing CP/M and bastardizing it into what was to become M$dos, was nothing more than a wet dream in Bill Gate's eye.
Don't lecture me about how all this works. I am fully aware of the environment that this software runs on. I have considered purchasing it myself at one time and rejected it because of some of the issues. As for Linux, I still don't consider it robust enough for a production level service, although I do find it preferable (and much more reliable) than anything microrsoft.
As for the PHP session issues, most of those are with Internet Explorer, not PHP or Linux.
:-)
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
)My bf, like virtually ALL the men I've known, has no friends that he confides in to that level. 