In the spirit of the 2004 SSM Lessons Learned thread I thought it would be good to start a thread for people to post their goals for 2005.
List goals and/or the "indicators" that you've achieved them.
Make sure that these are SMART goals - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Tangible.
Simply saying things like "get in shape" won't suffice. Instead think about it like this...."Get in shape" by "joining a gym within a month and visit 2x a week" and my results will be proven when "I can wear those jeans that don't fit anymore". This frames the goal with specific times, places etc. followed by "indicators" of success.
You will also need to be realistic about the fact that your spouse might not change one bit at all this year.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
1. Work on communicating with my H by not holding/harboring my frustrations and talk to him about them in an open & honest way.
2. Stop being afraid to talk to my H about sexual issues by telling him what I need, what works for me and when I want it...that is the only way I can stop feeling uncomfortable about doing it.
3. Work on losing my extra baby lbs by eating better (no matter what my H is eating or the other people around me are eating) and doing some sort of physical exercise daily (pilates, treadmill, weights...playing outside with my S.)
4. Stop using my sexual frustrations as a crutch for not losing the baby lbs. I have used my frustration/depression about not feeling attractive...to not be as attractive as I could. I will now become...the eye-poppin knockout I really am...for me.
Ok...I know some of these may not be all that specific or measureable...but it's an attempt anyway.
