Well I am back to where we started again. She wants to separate. gee what a suprise.. She's chatting on the internet again. Says I am too controlling. Whatever. Same verse another line. I am tired. i was happy being alone when we were separated. We have her two teenage boys in the house so they and I constantly butt heads. She says I hate the kids. I have been there helping raise her kids for almost 6 years. I think of them as mine too. But along those lines I think they should be held accountable for their actions. just not say oh well boys will be boys. at this rate the oldest one is going to knock up his teenage girlfriend then lets see how my wife likes being a 33 year old grandmother.
I am tired of playing her games. I just want to feel at peace. one way or the other. I am going to go see a lawyer after the holidays next week, and get things rolling. She wantts me to move out of our apartment again and I am not going to do it again. She wants out she needs to leave. The apartment is in my name only. I am not going to let her screw up my credit any more. I just want to be over with all this so that maybe I can learn to trust again. thank Yall for all the help in the past. I hope all is well with yall.....
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Thanks pam. Just another update. Her email came up last night when I logged on to the net and I saw some really rough things. A lot of sex talk and such. We had a huge fight. But later calmed things over a little. She said it was just a email thing and that she had not dated any one yet. But I have a hard time believing her since she has lied to me so much about everything. I have an appointment on Monday to see a lawyer and get things started. After several times of catching her cheating, I finally give in. I love her more than anything in this world but I cant go on living my life with a woman that doesnt give a crap about me. She told me that she never loved me, so our 5 years together has just been one huge joke for her. My pain, my anguish... I have to move on. I cant live this hell again. Thanks yall for all your support over the years. The really bad thing is that this time around neither of can afford to move out, so we still just have to live together. I am going to try and just stay away from her and take care of me and my son. My pride and joy.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Man What a day. Bad weather here really screwed up our plans. Sh was to fly to her parents and my son and I were to fly to my Dad's but rainstorms yesterday really played havoc with the ATL airport yesterday. So this morning we got up from our separate rooms and started cleaning up the house. Then after a while she started in on me about how I have ruined her holidays for the last 5 years and that she never gets to see her family because of me. Hell she turns away from her family whenever she gets in her WAW mindset. besides she has a cousin that live 3 miles from that we have only seen twice in two years here. She is gone now. She took off with one of her girlfriends to go to her families late thanksgiving day dinner, and left me and my son here with no car and a couple of tv dinners for our Thanksgiving dinner. What a mess. I cant believe I have been fighting for my marriage for over 2 years now and I am right back where we started again. I hope to get the divorce proceeding started next week. I am through. My appointment is monday at 11 and I will post back here if I have any news from it. Thanks yall for letting me vent my frustrations here.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Thanks Pam. He is 4 now. She didnt come home until 1:30 thanksgiving night. She drove me to the airport on friday so that my son and I could visit my family. We came back friday night though. What a mess that was though.. Our plane broke and we sat on the plane for 3 hours while they tried to fix it. Finally they just put us on a different plane. She was supposed to pick us up but when I said we were delayed she just left the car at the airport for us and took off. I havent heard from her since yesterday evening. I could really use a weekend without her, because I need some time alone to get my headstraight and get over the felling of love I still have for her. I guess what blows me away the most is how she has just blown off her son. Her other kids are with their Dad for the weekend. But our son is with me. She even went off on me thursday night about how this is the only time she is gonna have to go out and have some fun because the kids are gone. Thats fine my son and I are having fun together. But I tell you what the neighbor kid that she took in is gonna have to go. I came home last night and all the food that I bought to get us through the weekend was gone he and his buddies and I guess my stbx ate it all. Man do I ever regret taking her back this last time. I was geting on with my life and was just fine being alone, Now I am having to start this all over again. I have got to stop chaising the cheese. She is real good at baiting me into fights. I have to learn to keep my cool. I am still seeing the lawyer on Monday at 11. Anybody have any suggestions for me to take to the lawyer with me Iwould appreciate them.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
In IN at the A's all you should need is her SS# and if you have a rough idea of her income and any savings or stuff like that.
You will probably get a financial disclosure to fill out. So will have time to look that info up but I think you will need her Social # to file the papers to have served. At least here you would.
Have you talked with this attorney on the phone?
I know I talked to a couple of different ones and I was lousy at picking one. But I had too many emotions still involved to do that properly.
G interviewed several either over the phone or in person before he picked one. Some of them will give you an initial consultation for free or a very low fee.
Just trying to help you do a better job than I did picking an A.
Now D and I still have the house mess and some posessions that it wouldn't surprise me for us to end up back in court over at this point.
Take care of you and your son.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Well met with the lawyer today. Man was that an eye opener. Fighting for custody of my son means it could really get ugly. Seeing him today made me really want to reconsider Divorce and if I should wait her out again. But then I think about last night where she was checking out the personal ads on match.com while I was sitting on the sofa with our son watching Ice Age just a few feet from her. Damn am I confused. I am going to think about things while I work on getting my affairs in order for the lawyer.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
kevin, sorry you are back here. I wish things would have worked out, but unfortunately going back so quickly sometimes backfires. It takes a great deal of time, I think, before reconcilation occurs to really get a grip on where the R is going and make sure that both want back for all the right reasons and both your heads are on straight. I know people who have gone from threatening and fighting one day to getting back together the next...I think it is only time before something happens. Don't know what to tell you expect hang in there. How old are your children? I was thinking perhaps if they are old enough, they can choose...I know in many cases, a teenager can tell a judge where they choose to live. Just a thought.
My son is 4. He already knows something is wrong. Herr kids know what is up. My stepdaughter is back to not having anything to do with me, but then again she didnt want us getting back together. her oldest is upset too. His grandmother told him what was going on when he visited her for the holidays. I am really starting to think to myself why am I in love with a woman that doesnt love me back. I deserve to feel loved too. But I did until a month or so ago..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
