Chris, If your W is too tired, stressed, depressed and demotivated to be interested in ML to you, then why is she quitting her AD's cold turkey? What does she expect to be different by doing this?
I know absolutely nothing about Paxil, but does it make one feel tired or demotivated?
I don't understand her motivation in quitting the medication and I sure as hell don't understand her method. Is she trying to make her life unpleasant?
If your W is too tired, stressed, depressed and demotivated to be interested in ML to you, then why is she quitting her AD's cold turkey? What does she expect to be different by doing this? I know absolutely nothing about Paxil, but does it make one feel tired or demotivated?
The Paxil CR is taking away emotion and killing the "highs" for her. Of course, it's killing the "lows" too... but apparently those weren't bad enough for her to think she needs the Paxil anymore. SSRI antidepressants can "zombify" a person, and I remember when I was on LexaPro, I couldn't cry no matter how I tried... it was a strange feeling, and I hated it. Antidepressants affect each person differently. W wants to purge her body of all the "unnatural health aides" (BC pills, SSRI antidepressants) and see how life is without them.
Quote: I don't understand her motivation in quitting the medication and I sure as hell don't understand her method. Is she trying to make her life unpleasant?
I think it's a desperate attempt at righting the sinking ship. She feels lost and out of place somehow. It's too bad that I don't own her problems and can't solve them for her, eh?
I think you are "owning her problems" too much. She realizes something is not right with her mood and has tried various AD's...that is her way of trying. Now she wants to see how she feels without the help of the medication...she is recognizing there is no easy cure for feeling good. She is trying.
On your date nite, you stayed connected to her by talking and staying strong and keeping things lite. It worked, and that's " all" you need to do...be there for her. She responded. Hopefully she will begin to see that the best medicine is a healthy, open connection with you.
So don't get weighed down, or in PM-speak, "fused" with her emotional state.
I think you are "owning her problems" too much. She realizes something is not right with her mood and has tried various AD's...that is her way of trying. Now she wants to see how she feels without the help of the medication...she is recognizing there is no easy cure for feeling good. She is trying.
Well, she needs to try harder and get into better shape. I'm giving her a year to "shape up" and service my sexual needs properly, and if she doesn't, I'm dropping the bomb on her with divorce papers. This is such BS living with someone who doesn't feel like taking care of herself. I deserve better... some hot 20-something woman who wants to f*ck my brains out twice a day would be nice. Looking at my W and not wanting to touch her 'cause I'm turned off by her body and her blah moods SUCKS.
Get her into counseling and you too. Stress/adrenal fatigue can tire and put on weight without trying.
After reading your "pressure post" above even as horney as I am, I wouldn't want to sleep with "that".
What caused her to be depressed in the first place? If you respond to "release only" f'ing out you brains may be a place to start. That may leave room for a bit more compassion. Excercise with her? Walk with her?
What could you offer a 20 year old that another 20 year old couldnt?
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
TNC wrote: ------------- Well, she needs to try harder and get into better shape. I'm giving her a year to "shape up" and service my sexual needs properly, and if she doesn't, I'm dropping the bomb on her with divorce papers. This is such BS living with someone who doesn't feel like taking care of herself. I deserve better... some hot 20-something woman who wants to f*ck my brains out twice a day would be nice. Looking at my W and not wanting to touch her 'cause I'm turned off by her body and her blah moods SUCKS. -------------
That is about the most selfish, disgusting thing I think I have read on this forum.
It is one thing to be angry with your spouse. It is quite another to degrade a person that has gone through so much, told to us by you.
Your spouse has been through hell for a while now. She has tolerated your affair as well. Frankly, I am amazed at the woman.
She is motivated enough to kick the SSRIs via the short route. I don't know her motivations, but that is seriously gutsy in my book.
Chris, if you ever want a chance at *any* functional relationship, you will have to learn to focus on someone other than yourself.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
OMG I hope I didn't see that right. Pardon me, but SERVICE YOU????????????????????? Is that what you think marriage and love is all about? Sorry Dude, that hit me wrong
Hmmm, I wonder if that was really Chris, or if he's channeling the Night Stalker. Or maybe he's possessed? "The power of Jesus compels you! The power of Jesus compels you!"
Chris, why don't you tell us how you REALLY feel?
Seriously, dude, your thinking is SO wrong on SO many levels.
