I saying that those things decribe ME, the so called HD person. In any case, I just doing my duty reading these things so maybe you don't have to.
He is suggesting that a "12-step" program similar to those of AA and Sexaholics Anonymous might help sexual anorexics. But remember, step 1 is admitting, "I am powerless before x," where x is whatever malady you are talking about that. W will never admit that.
Paul, I'd suggest double checking with your insurance on coverage. I find it odd that counselling is not covered. Most plans have MH/counselling coverage, although you may have network issues depending on the counsellor. My spouse and I are seeing one not in my insurance network so are using a lower benefit with a deductible then a copay.
Also your claims and other information are confidential, neither your employer or sometimes even spouse can access the information without your written permission. The same goes for the flex account.
Also you should check with your EAP(Employee Assistance Program), generally an 800 number that offers a wide variety of services including counselling and legal advice.
Scott -Who is pleased that someone finally asked a question from his professional skill set. And is happy to announce that the bathroom remodel is now at point where both the sink and toilet are operational!!!!
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
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Oh, that's just and excuse for having a hangover.....
Paul,
The "social stigma" about counseling is way out of line. We should be able to work out our problems without that added pressure of the social stigma. Getting into counseling is much healthier than the alternatives. Finding a Japanese counseler might be a big stroke of luck for you. Keep us posted.
Why would anyone be powerless over a lack of sexual appetite?
Many people, on these forums and off, have regained their sex drive by keeping sex in their minds and being open to the idea, as well as (the simplest way of all, imo) considering themselves sexy and concentrating on that thought, rather than lack of physical urges.
How would admitting powerlessness help that person move FORWARD and become a red hot lover?
From the stories I've read, it appears that the person feeling empowered over their sexuality is the thing that led to real success.
I think Paul was saying that his W wouldn't ADMIT to being powerless over anything...that she won't even admit to their being a problem with their sex life.
Sorry, I have to work sometimes, so I fall behind in my postings . I don't think that anybody would or should enter a "12-step" program to address a loss of sexual appetite, as the author of "Sexual Anorexia" is advocating. I'll continue my reading, just in case there is some helpful information in there.
Having said that, I do feel that there is something seriously wrong with our marriage. I realize that this last week has had fewer smiles and less laughter than previous weeks, in large part due to my irritation. I guess some people call this backsliding, but I think it is headed toward a crisis.
Hairdog, forgive me if I missed the post, but did you have that conversation with your W about not being willing to spend a celibate life? How did it go?
. I don't think that anybody would or should enter a "12-step" program to address a loss of sexual appetite, as the author of "Sexual Anorexia" is advocating. I'll continue my reading, just in case there is some helpful information in there.