So H is taking me on a date tonight. Better late than never eh!
He emailed me a while ago and told me that he arranged with my sister (mother of our babysitters) to pick the kids up at 3 and have them back "no later than 3 hours after that".
I can't help but feel massively disappointed. That, in my opinion, is not a date. I don't know wtf it is, but it's not a date. We will be arriving back in time to feed and bathe our children and I will have to put them to bed. I am trying to see the positive in this situation but it is not coming to me right now!
So this will be a short thread...and I basically wanted a quick opinion...should I approach this at all as if it is a date? I was initially planning on dressing nice, etc, but now I am all worried and trying to get inside his mind and thinking that he may want to just go casual. Translation: Don't dress or act sexy cause he probably doesn't want to go there.
In case you all haven't noticed I am excessively hormonal today. I just feel bummed out that, you know, it isn't bad enough that he doesn't want me sexually but now he can't even stomach the thought of a real date with me! He has to call and change all the plans so that they are a short afternoon out and there is NO chance to come home to a quiet house, horny and happy after our break from the kids.
Honey, who is really resenting Dudley Doolittle right now.
My feeling is that you should keep the expectations that this will be a sex nite low...and just go out and have fun with him! Wear what makes you feel good inside and have a great time.
I am not going soft on the sex issue with you...we'll hit Mr.HP hard after the baby is born.
IHJ-- who was reading thru the posts fast, and thought you wrote that it would take you 3 minutes to recover from the delivery, not 3 months, LOLOL
What a dud. I think Journey's right. Enjoy sitting and watching a movie (as if) and then go home and tell him you're pooped, and since he worked a short day (did he?), HE can put the kids to bed. Heck, woman, you passed mobile home stage a while ago, you're officially as big as a house. Houses just sit there.
Hairdog - Winner of the Most Sensitive Male of 2004 award.
Dear... you've spoiled your time before it has begun. Take it in, moment by moment, and rather than letting pre-existing expectations cloud your potential enjoyment, just let it happen and experience it as you go.
But don't get pissed because your definition of 'date' and your H's definition of date aren't matching up. Throw out the word altogether. You have an appointment. You have a scheduled outing. You have three hours with no children. Whatever...
Get my drift?
Switching gears... you know, I swear the other day, I thought, I need to get Honey a baby present... and then it hit me... I don't even know you!!
So... if I did know you, knew your name, etc,... I'd send you a nice little baby gift, and a little something special in it for you, too. And then you'd be left to explain to the world that you just got a gift from someone you don't know, not really, well, you do, you know a lot about her, well, not really, just one aspect of her...
I'm sorry, I just giggled my butt off when I started really thinking about it....
Okay. Go have fun. Oh... and make sure the H packs your computer in your baby bag so that when it is your time, you can zip off a msg. from the hospital to let us know how and the baby are, what it is, etc., etc.,
Journey, I have NO expectations that this night will end in sex. How's that for low?!
But I suppose I did think that it would still be a "date" and focused on romance and US being together, alone. He changed everything and it will not have a date quality any longer, at least for me. So I guess I will wear whatever I feel like and let the chips fall where they may. I don't even know why I am worrying about it. What I wear or do has absolutely no bearing on my H. I should probably delete this entire thread. I believe I just answered my own question! Wear what I feel like and go with no expectations at all. Obviously he is not seeing me as a wife right now, let alone a lover, and is looking for a way to 'pretend' to be living his duty as a husband while completely copping out and giving me from 3-6 and calling it a date.
See there. I told you I was emotional.
I really wish he would not have done this. Planning a date 5 days before my due date when I have been asking and begging for his time all year just really is not that smart. Then to change it at the last minute so it is not really a date and we get to come home and attend to all the childcare duties is just beyond ridiculous.
I think I just need a good cry......or a stiff drink, lol.
Plus, D2 got a hold of some scissors and cut gobs of her hair off a little while ago.
HP wrote: ------------- So this will be a short thread...and I basically wanted a quick opinion...should I approach this at all as if it is a date? I was initially planning on dressing nice, etc, but now I am all worried and trying to get inside his mind and thinking that he may want to just go casual. Translation: Don't dress or act sexy cause he probably doesn't want to go there. -------------
"Hubby, since we only have three hours, we can do one of two things.
I can rent a DVD so that we can mess around and still have time to watch a movie, or I can rent a room at the SeedyMotel for three hours and we can go there. Which one do you want to do?"
Have a good date! -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Corri: Thank you for this nice message! You know, if my H doesn't want me just about the nextbestthing is to have people genuinely interested in my new baby. THANK YOU! Sure means a lot to me.
I know I need to take it one moment at a time. Man I am a freakin wreck right now. VERY emotional. This is the first time this pregnancy that I have really felt that weepy, outta control feeling. Most days I am just a little more tempermental than usual.
We originally set it up as picking up the babysitter at 5:00 and taking them home at 9:00 pm. So I believe that H and I were, at one time, in agreement as to what constitutes a date. For some reason that is currently unbeknownst to me, he has changed things around so that instead of a night off, I get to come home and tend to the same sheot that I normally do--namely the kids and their physical needs. What a friggin disappointment! The man can't be that dense, can he?!
Since dinner and a movie was his original date plan, I am certain that he made no alternate arrangements for what we will do instead. Right now, he is out of the office and I have no way to reach him until he arrives at 3:15 or so with my nieces. So it is also partly the fact that I feel out of control and have no way to influence the plans--which I don't think anyone would argue SUCK. He will walk in the door expecting everything to be ready and me ready to go and have not one iota of a plan as to what to do. What IS there to do on a Friday night at rush hour? hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, traffic anyone?
Gosh I hate the feeling of being disappointed in my spouse. He is better than this.
Btw, I am having the Honeybaby at home so don't you worry! You will have more updates on my progress than you will care to read. LOL You poor people probably have the due date marked on your calendar so you will know approximately when you can expect me to shut the hell up about my woes and heartaches.
Oh and Hairy, yes I am as big as a house now..up forty pounds whoo hooooooo!
However, that didn't stop H from putting his hand on my you-know-what last night but then refusing to do anything further. It's like he is attracted to my p***y but then...doh!...he remembers that it's attached to the fat whale with da bun in da oven and it's all over.
Honey, A lot can happen in three hours! Enjoy and try not to ruminate on the lack of time!
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Oh MPT, I wish it were labor! No signs of that yet.
With the other two, I remember being in a decent mood. With D5, my MIL invited me out to lunch and I realized halfway through that I was in labor. (contrax got stronger as we ate and I thought, Hmm, maybe I should time them) With D2 I don't really remember!
I am usually a firecracker to live with, so he is used to that.
I think the thing that is chapping my arse SO BADLY about this whole deal is the timing of the so called date. If it was from 6-9 at least I would miss out on all my normal duties with the kids. And it would be night and would have a date quality to it. I doubt I will have much fun knowing I get to come home to a trashed house, dirty and hungry and hyper kids.
Ok people enough griping from me. I am just furious and H is going down tonight. We all know that so let's not pretend any longer that Honey will be able to hold it together.
