Not having any expertise in this arena, I have not wanted to even try to recommend a course of action.
Sage is NOT mad at you, she is just trying to help you in a way that would be productive and not cumbersome.
I agree with her suggestion of giving David a list of what needs to be done, along with who will do what, and who should pay for it. Send it to him Fed Ex if you need to and send copies via regualr mail to all of the A's involved plus the realator. Like she says, if he doesn't respond by a certain time then he is agreeing to what you have proposed.
If this is out of the realm of what feels comfortable to you then get an attorney to draft the document.
thank you both for supporting and Sage for not being upset with me.
I am just spending lots of time trying to sort out my head.
Not there yet.
I am getting lots of housework done.
Feeling some anger at J, but I know she does like to gloat, she did it last year at the dog show when she knew D was filing the next day and I didn't.
I keep thinking she won, she got him divorced, what else does she want, but I guess as long as we still own the house together he isn't free and clear for her.
My thoughts for now are D is working on the house, he definitely intends to list it as soon as possible and I am going to try again to just drop the rope.
He didn't start working on getting it ready till I was out of it so it appears he doesn't want my help on anything and I have let him know if he does need me all he has to do is let me know and I will be glad to help.
Hoping if I back away I can work on getting thoughts of J out of my head and get my emotions leveled back out.
This morning I didn't even go to the grocery store. I walked the shelties, checked e-mail and then went back to bed for about 2 hours. Did feel better when I got back up, not quit so depressed. Called M and told her was going to work on the house and skip breakfast this morning.
She asked if I was going to Home Depot, I said not sure, I need to pick up my blinds. I had told her last night they were in. She said why don't you let me get them then if they are paid for as I have to go to HD after work anyway.
I have decided she HAS to be my guardian angel!!!!!!!!!
Favorite Christmas movie: It's a Wonderful Life
So today more work on organizing the house. Determined to get my life and house organized again.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Don't go down that path sunshine!! You are doing so great in moving on with your life. I lurk and hear happiness in your words.
D is being an a&&, but so what else is new?
Dig out your stuff from your A, make your list, run it through the realtor, then have A send it to D and his A. Then do your part and ignore his. You will have done what was agreed upon, it is his fault if he doesn't. The realtor can reduce the selling price proportionate to what D hasn't done on the improvements and remove that from his cut.
Sage and Pamila were completely right - I just had to get my two cents in!
I want to hear more of the excited Pam, the one telling us about her new house, the kids adjusting to it, her new friend and neighbor, etc.
If you write like that, I'll come visit again. I know you still have moments of sadness, but I was under the impression that they are quickly becoming less and less!
You go girl!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Quote: I know you still have moments of sadness, but I was under the impression that they are quickly becoming less and less!
They are becoming less and less.
I can feel the time and distance doing some healing for me.
This weekend I actually wonder if I was feeling some of the depression that S told me to expect as I step down the ad's?
I mean it was a very rough weekend, I was productive most of it and the shells are just great company. Plus M is just the nicest person you would want to meet!
I really and truly believe that when I prayed that evening before going to look at houses again that the Lord stepped in and directed me here.
I think it makes me uncomfortable in a way because I am so used to giving and when M gives so freely that I feel the scales are out of balance.
But I ordered her what I hope is a very nice flower arrangement to be delivered to her at work today for her B-day which is Wednesday. Then Wednesday night T and I are planning a surprise dinner for her.
I mean I invited her to dinner, but she doesn't know T, C and maybe the wild bunch as T calls them may be there!!!
G will miss it as he leaves for Canada in the morning. But he thought it sounded nice and sorry he was going to miss it.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
