Somehow I missed the last part of your post and just came across it today.
I don't blame you! Did you see the length of my post? I should learn to post in smaller segments.
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That is so hot! And the condom in the thong was a great touch. Way to rev up your sexual imagination. I knew you could be your H's bombshell.
I'm thrilled that you and your H have been able to find ways to connect with each other and take the intimacy in your marriage to a new level. Your success gives me hope for my M.
I didn't think I had it in me. Well, let me rephrase that. I know I absolutely have that in me. But after years and years of rejection, my self-esteem was/is at a pitiful level. I thought of what Schnarch said - that it is an integrity issue. I thought of the necklace story in PM. I will admit that it was not an all-out seduction. I asked H earlier in the day if he would be ready for his surprise that night, and he said sure. So I went for it. I had to self-soothe quite a bit, but I pulled it off. It really does force you to grow.
So, the last few nights have been nice. A few days ago, I teasingly asked H why he is so uncomfortable when I am close. He denied it vehemently, and has proceeded to prove that he is not. He is very huggy, kissy these days. He will kiss me at bedtime and ask nicely if that was enough exchange of saliva!!
Last night, we were watching Everybody loves Raymond. It is a show that I love to hate, I can barely stand how stereotypical everyone is...but we still watch it. Last night, Debra was angry with Ray because of something his mother said, and she was all over him. He was loving the angry sex! Anyhoo, H looks over at me and says,"Thats you honey, a lioness is bed" "And what are you?", I asked. Deadpan, he replied, "A cougar." We both burst out laughing.
I am feeling very proud of my H. He seems to have entered multiple crucibles, and settled down very quickly. I'm never sure when this happens because he doesn't verbalize endlessly like me. But his actions show his state of mind very clearly. (SM, you remarked on this a few days ago. I should just listen to your observations on my situation and stop thinking! You have always been right on. )
So the lioness comment threw me because it is the first postive thing I have heard from him about my sexuality since....oh, the early 90s! Later, in bed, he asked me if I was angry. I was suprised, because I certainly wasn't angry and asked him why he thought that. He said,"Well, if you are angry, we can have angry sex." Another round of good laughter.
My H has a great sense of humor. It is one of the things that drew me to him. I can never stay mad at him for too long because he will diffuse just about any situation with his humor. I am looking forward to the sex jokes
"And what are you?", I asked. Deadpan, he replied, "A cougar." We both burst out laughing.
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