I was thinking about the sexual needs (his) thing...and I'm not sure what else I can do....I have suggested things I want to do for him, with the statement that "Its no strings attached, just something for you to relax and enjoy" and H has just plain said "no" and gets irritated if I persist....last weekend, when things were nice and "warm", I mentioned afterwards that he needs to tell me what turns him on so I can do more....he said, "well, I liked everything we did today"....not real up for new stuff at that time....I've just been trying things and backing off if he doesnt respond well....he isn't very forth coming about stuff he'd like, other than frankly now he gets lots of stuff he wanted for years and didnt get. Hmmmmmmm
I asked my H , would u like me to buy you something to wear in the bedroom. His response was sure. The reason I asked is because he always tells me what he likes me to wear.