SuperDave Diary Tuesday. Hi everyone, I have been lying low on the forum while I sorted myself out but I feel in the mood to post some more now. For the last couple of months I have been feeling great and it is not due to LM frequency which has been low. Until last Friday we had a gap of 8 weeks. In that time I have discovered self-validation and most of my happiness is due to that. I met up with some old friends and now spend Sunday mornings with them and my S11 standing in a field flying model aeroplanes. It sounds childish but you actually get a big adrenaline rush and it is good to talk technical with other like-minded guys. If you have a skill from childhood then whatever it is, you get huge self-satisfaction from rediscovering and using it again. My W is simply a wonderful woman and I look at her through different eyes now. I have gone from seriously depressed about our R to totally positive. I am not expecting frequent passionate LM and would be delighted by once a week if we can get there eventually. It’s just that I can now see the love in her eyes and I know that she is making efforts in her own way. For instance last Friday she told me her period was starting and as Friday is our night and it had been 8 weeks since last time I self soothed myself ready for bedtime. At bedtime I hugged her and told her that my love for her was as strong as it has ever been and that it was a pity she had a sore tummy because I had hoped we’d ML. To my astonishment and delight she said, “I haven’t actually started yet” – she initiated!!! She has not initiated for many many years and as we ML I was overwhelmed with love for her. Yesterday I had my vasectomy. While we were in the waiting room she had a smile flickering on her lips. I’m not sure whether it was because of my nerves or whether she is looking forward to a brighter future. When we first met she was on the pill and we had a great sex life. Perhaps she was remembering that… SD
Dave, I am so impressed. Your happiness and optimism is readily apparent, even after a vasectomy! Congratulations on you and W for rekindling loving feelings, J
Quote: Yesterday I had my vasectomy. While we were in the waiting room she had a smile flickering on her lips. I’m not sure whether it was because of my nerves or whether she is looking forward to a brighter future. When we first met she was on the pill and we had a great sex life. Perhaps she was remembering that…
Or... maybe she was thinking about a knife so close to the jewels... (sorry, I couldn't resist)
Great news! Wow, she initiated...very cool. Hope you enjoy the ice-pack on your balls. I know I did. Remember to get the test in about eight weeks to see if your spermy-guys are belly-up.
One quick story: My doctor said, "come back for a fertility test in 8 weeks, or in about 12 ejaculations." I answered, "12 ejaculations? I'll see you the day after tomorrow."
hd: I have to give a sample at 12 weeks and another at 16. I think my doc said 20 to 30 ejaculations. I mentioned to W that I would appreciate some help with them but she countered that if I was in the bathroom longer than usual she would know what I was doing. I will persue her on these 30 and try to get say 10 from her. Quite a challenge. She has been interested in my wellbeing and actually had a look at my sticky plasters. Since then I have gone quite a deep shade of purple so I may let her have another peek tonight. SD
I didn't have much bruising at all, but I did have some pain in my scrotum every time I ejaculated for several months. It was never severe, mostly just discomfort as opposed to pain. Much milder, but similar to a kick in the crotch. It gradually subsided, but it took several months.
I had some post-op pain, but was doing okay in a week or so. Now, however, I have two hernias I need operated on, and that may be another story. Going to see the doc this Friday.
Hairdog - no heavy lifting. (Actually, last week my wife tried to say that my hernias should preclude sex, and I told her that they only precluded the "holding her up against the wall" kind of sex.)
One quick story: My doctor said, "come back for a fertility test in 8 weeks, or in about 12 ejaculations." I answered, "12 ejaculations? I'll see you the day after tomorrow."
LOL...I'll remember that one when I get myself done.
Actually, I should move this to my thread but I need to consider getting this done. We are ambivalent about another child but don't want to completely close the door on the idea. That's why we are using the most primitive form of birth control. Maybe I should just go get snipped and let her deal with it because I don't really want more kids but I wouldn't care if we did. Weird.
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wb: Although it is less than 2 days I have very little discomfort. I am saving my first ej until Friday and I desperately hope there is no kick in the balls pain. That would put a real dampener on my PM project for sure. AtlD: we have 3 children but having the third was a hard journey including two miscarriages. W was desperate for a third baby. Once she had him, it was as if Mother Nature just switched off her reproductive desires. It has taken me 11 years to get around to getting the snip although my attitude was that it just wasn’t worth it for 3 times per year mercy sex. I have a different attitude now though and am looking forward to a future of 3 times per month (I wish ). SD
(sorry, I couldn't resist)
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