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Corri,

Your subject line says you have a question. But I don't SEE a question anywhere in your post.

Is your question "Guys, what do you think of this?"

Personally, I think it's a huge f'ing turnon. But don't go by me -- I've only had sex two times in five years.

Choc.

Corri, if you want to ask something, please less code. And what is the question?

About your squirt thing, if that is what you are talking about, here is my opinion.

As a young male in the 60's I would have found it objectionable. Peeing on someone was gross at the time. Although waht is happening isn't peeing on someone.

Since then I have watched several TV programs about female squirting, heard some of the mechanics and processes behind the event and seeing that it is something some women do, some of the times. Now I think it is cool, not because I would have made the woman hot. And not because I think I was good at sex.

I would be happy to experience the event with a squirter because I would think she got to a higher level of excitement than some women achieve. I would be happy mostly because she was having a good time and hopefully, she was happy.

If I taught art to you and you painted well, I would feel proud I might have contributed some how to your success but the main feeling I would have is congratulary toward you. Same with the squirting. You did it.

Now, tell your potential partner before hand and use several towels. Not every guy is going to know what is going on.

PS, women that don't squirt, gees I am cool with that too.

Just like the Army saying I used to hear in the 60's, "Smok'em if you got'em."

Hey Corri.

Thats really outstanding for you.
Its no doubt that you feel exposed and raw the next day. you really have to let go of your control to allow that.

Put a towel under you and enjoy it.
Its a gift that you are giving to the guy.
It doesnt make him a stud, there are techniques anyone can learn to 'force' it to happen,
But that doesnt sound like what is happening. It just means you trust him.
He should be grateful, not puffed up and crowing.
Appreciate that he helps you feel safe enough to accomplish this.

and like nop said, dump any man who isnt mature enough to handle it.

Yes, I read an article on it once in a "rough" lesbian magazine. I am very jealous of you , Corri. I'm sure it would be like adding one more very cool instrument to the orgasm crescendo and release. I sometimes almost get that feeling, like there's a juicy pie baking in my oven and the top crust is about to split but I never quite make it to mess on the roof of the oven. I come with my nerves and my muscles before I get there. Is this a good analogy for what you are experiencing?

Hey Corri
Your posts lately are...different.
Are you drinking?
As Lou said, very disjointed.
But anyways,
I am glad you are finding this sexual side of yourself.
I'm not a squirter but I've seen some bad porn pertaining to that ability. Yes, it looks messy but, whatcha gonna do. If your guy is not complaining don't worry about it.

Corri squirts? Kewl.

BTW, GGB, I think this may be exactly what your wife worries about.

Hairdog

Hairy,

Yes, I am quite sure it is EXACTLY what she frets over. I'd like to get more details from Corri as to exactly how it feels and how she worked/is working through it. More out of trying to understand than anything else. I figure that perhaps she might give me a better understanding of MrsGGB, since this is something MrsGGB simply won't talk about other than to say she doesn't like that feeling.

GGB, suggest YOU google the phrase "female ejaculation."

All:

Well, I thought I asked a question... sorry if I wasn't clear. I know I'm sputtering around a bit, but gosh darn this particular thing is very embarassing to me... I was blushing just writing it.

So, my original question is/was... what are guys feelings on female ejaculation (which you all answered for me, thanks). I'm the first woman my bf has been with that has done this, though he's always heard of it. It is my first time as a woman doing this... so its sort of a first for both of us. And though his response has been like most of you guys... well, I'm a girl, and I was pathetically seeking validation and 'attagirls!" from my online guy friends.

Lou, it is not peeing on someone. It is very different than that, but yes, a puddle can get left behind. Oy. And the first time it happened... I was so mortified... but so caught up in the feeling, I wasn't willing to stop it.

GGB: Yes... it feels like you might lose your bladder, and any OTHER control you might have of bodily functions down there. The build up is often accompanied (at least for me) by feelings of panic... and if I allow the panic to take over (which I've pretty much done my entire life), I can still O... but, it isn't anything near what I've been experiencing.

I wanted to hear from the guys on this, rather than the girls... because of the amount of trust and feelings of security I had to have in order to get to this... and that was not easy for me. I think if I experienced even the slightest 'oh gross' from my bf, or had any sense at all that he was being anything less than honest... I would have never allowed myself to get to this.

But. Having said all that... besides my girlish reactions to messes and such... every person on the planet should be so lucky to experience this.

Thanks for the validation...

Corr

GGB, the TV program on the Oxygen network "Talk sex with sue" covers this topic once a month or so. Women like Ms GGB call in asking why they do this and what is happening.

Also the "Sinclair Institute" has some sex education tapes about the subject.