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Thanks Jack! I am taking care of myself tonight, eating fudge, smokin' cigarettes and enjoying my new drugs! And let me tell ya, I'm not into taking drugs, but it feels so good right now!

It didn't even make me cry when I found that OW had left her glasses on my window sill. Now this Xanex is good! Can't believe the woman was in my house again. But, Marcika had a good point. She probably wont let him out of her sight. I'm such a threat to her, not only with MY husband, but her's too. She told her H he can't talk to me anymore or she'll cancel his cell phone. Sucks to be her!

And no, I didn't do anything to her glasses, I'm leaving them where I found them.

Danu

Good thing I left those glasses alone, hunh Marcika!!!!! This goes to show you how messed up I am-Marcika was at my house last weekend. I didn't notice she'd left her glasses until yesterday (Wed) and so I assumed they were OW's. The really funny part is that Marcika didn't remember leaving them here! Ok, we think this was funny! Hope everyone else who reads this does too!

Danu

How are you feeling? How's your BP? All the stress from this really takes its toll on us.
Just wanted to check in with you...

Take care of yourself. Xanex saved my life the first 2 months of my H's MLC. I could finally sleep again.

Danu,
SURPRISE the glasses on the window sill are mine!!!!!Time for a good hearty laugh....YES

Hello Hope & Goal,

My BP today is 180/92. Much lower than when I was at the ER. I can't remember how high it was there because I was kind of freaking out about the whole thing.

I am feeling better, but not quite right, I can tell. I had a good day at work, and tried to stay focused on the here and now.

Thanks for asking.

Danu

Oh Danu

I know where you are coming from.....my H wants and has filed for a D...its in the works. He has left me for a 25 yr old OW. And he FLAUNTED her about from the getgo. It hurts like a knife.
Its been a yr. A long ways to go as I have seen no indication he has seen any light from within the tunnel. We had a good marrigage with a few bumps but who doesnt. But according to him all 13 yrs and 25 in total were terrible....started out with 2 yrs he was unhappy mind you.

Hello PWS,

I expect Divorce papers any time now. He is not the man I married. Like they say, the aliens have abducted my husband and replaced him with his exact opposite. I do not love this new man, and if he's here to stay I want no relationship with him. If my husband does come back to earth, I'll be thrilled and very open to working things out. If not, I'll be moving on. I lived on my own before I met him, and I can do it again. There are lots of wonderful men out there, and when I'm ready, I do want to be married again.

My H also started out saying it was just the last couple of years he'd been unhappy, and then it went to "most of the time we've been together". I believe this MLC stuff is pure insanity, and we need to try not to take the lies personally. I struggle with that a lot. My main goal now is to not think about the situation constantly, and to begin to make a new life without him. I keep telling myself that it's going to be a great new adventure!

Danu

Hello everyone,

Here's the latest addition to my sitch. Payday came and went, and I didn't hear anything from H., so I called him. This is the first contact I've had with him since he left almost 3 weeks ago. He didn't sound good at all, in fact for about 30 seconds I thought I was talking to someone else. To make a long story short, he did come through with the money, and came over when I was home, even though he had the option to come while I was at the Dentist. He looked like hell! Glassy eyes, long face, looked like he'd been up all night.

I told him that I shouldn't have to ask him for money, and he agreed. I said "just because there's one less body in this house doesn't mean that heat costs any less, or electricity, or that credit cards and house payments don't have to be made." He didn't appear to get mad at this nasty comment, and just said the standard "I know...."

We talked about alot of things, no mention of a D., but he made it clear he doesn't plan to come back, as we talked about what he wanted to take from the house, and their plans to find another place to rent so he can have his Dog.

When he dropped the bomb a year ago I refused to sleep in the same bed with him, and a friend gave him a bed. He'd left it here, but decided to take it now because the OW's 19 year old daughter wants to stay with them when she's home on the weekends from college. What a wonderful lesson to teach a young girl! It makes me sick! I know this isn't any of my business, and I have to stop thinking about it!

He told me if I need anything, not to hesitate to call him, and I said that goes both ways. I bummed a couple of cigarettes off him because I'm in the process of quitting. We laughed about it, and before I went to bed, I found two cigarettes he'd left me on top of the fridge. Amazing how they can be so damn selfish, and then have a moment when they do think of someone else! He wanted to know how I got hay for the Horses (we use the big 600Lb bales) and I told him how our friend helped me. He seemed surprised that I could handle this task without him. I've told him all along, that I want him, I don't need him. Must suck not to be needed afterall!

I told him about my trip to the ER, and how the Dr. said it was all stress related. He was genuinely concerned.

My voice cracked a couple of times during the conversation, and I couldn't look at him when he was leaving, as I just about broke down in front of him.

As always, thanks for listening!

Danu

Danu,

Sounds like you are doing fine, good stuff not contacting him for 3 weeks! If thinking he might be there when you get home or that he may take your belongings is upseting you you need to change the locks. I did that a week into my sitch and I lost alot of fear as a result.

I was going to try to quit smoking at the begining begining but I need the cigs now more than ever. I am gonna try again when I hit the 6 month mark and see if I can do it.

The cigs he left you prove 2 things, he is thinking about you more than you would imagine and he is guilty for what he has done.

Keep up the good work!

Billy