Jazz: We have all been there and it takes time. Find just one good friend and do something with that person maybe once a week. If they are a really good friend, it will be like therapy for you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It is very typical for them to act "normal" around others and yet, be so out of character w/the lbs. Eventually, they will not be able to maintain the mask of being "normal" around others and that's when the outside world will get a glimpse of what you've been dealing w. The outside world will begin to see a bit of the anger, paranoia, the forgetfulness, tardiness, and the childish behavior. They will begin to wonder what is wrong w/the mlcer. Unfortunately, you will have already been an active player in this world of madness. The best thing you can do is say nothing of the behavior to others, for they will think it's you. Allow the mlcer to hang herself/himself w/the behavior.
Yes, it's very wierd to be on the receiving end of this behavior. Keep detaching and do not allow the words of the mlcer to hurt you, for they are projecting their thoughts/feelings and hurts on to you at this time. This is all about them, not you.
dont look to the left or the right, dont even look behind you just keep moving forward and keep moving. stay away from myspace and all of the other stupid things that cause you to spiral down.
Jazz, this happened (is still happening to me), where she doesn't want me in her same circle of friends and won't attend functions with my friends. She won't even have (allow) my family to visit. She acts very diffently in public than at home. I am still trying to cope, but I agree, get a good friend (or more) and find something you like doing!
#3 no what I mean, and I am sorry for even putting this thought in your head is making a myspace account with a fictional person and trying to get her to add you as a friend that way.
Don't do it, unless you want to appear under the defnition of PATHETIC along with me.
Jazz, many of us have been where you are. I will say not as many have posted as much as you or seemed to need as much hand holding or validation...that is word you will learn here.
But that doesn't mean we won't try to help you see what works for us.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
