There are other people in that same sitch, and they are making it living together. It's not easy, but it's whats in your best interset. I will tell my wife when I move back in, I have to because I will not be betrayed if we do get a D, and lose everything because of me moving out. And if she can't accept that, I will not budge. It will be uncomfortable for a while, but I will make my attitude make it good for my S and myself.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
Excellent point! This may sound materialstic here but there is no way that I want to lose this house to her with what has been occuring. No the house is not the most important thing here - the kids are. And with this she has not been telling them the truth to why I have not been spending the night and how they do not see me as frequently when I was living there. I need to show my assertiveness on this and take a stand. What I am honestly questioning now is - do I want her as a wife after all of this - do I stil love her? I am not really sure
Thats something you have to figure out. I am not going to dump my five years of relationship for this reason. I feel that if she decides to make amends with me, and go to counsling, I will make an attempt. I know that life is to short to let something like this get in the way of my family. If we both decide to change, and we work hard at a loving M, it is all worth it for my S. He deserves to be with the both of us. I do not want to be part time father. So, in all, I will always love her.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
