Hi friends, I'm in need of some suggestions on what to say when H baby talks as he is initiating. A pat response that I repeat time after time seems to work really well with him, eventually at least. I want something firm but not so firm that it upsets the male/female balance we have going on--especially at that moment, kwis?
It's getting to the point that I am mentally feeling unhinged due to instances like the recent one where he had his hand on my clit inquiring (in a singsong voice) whether I wanted sex or to go "night night". I said, Let's try it again and you can tell me how much you want me rather than asking questions about me. He gladly accepted that challenge.
If anyone can come up with something different/more effective, I'm all ears.
Other than this, I'd say things are going swimmingly in my neck of the woods. Lots of affection, a good amount of sex, a smattering of alone adult time...not too shabby. That might all end tonight when I tell H that the hot water heater is leaking propane into our home. (just found that out a while ago)
Anyway, this minor thing is still plaguing me and I'd be open to suggestions on how to deal with it. Once we get past the babytalk, it is a nonissue.
I think the way you handled it is superb "Lets try it again..." Do it every time, and he should get the message. Maybe follow up when not in the heat of the moment with a "You know H, when you do that baby-talk thing asking me for sex, it just kind of kills it for me. On the other hand when you tell me what you want and what you are going to do without asking it reaaaallly revs me up. If I'm not in the mood I'll tell ya even if you don't ask, so why not increase your chances and just tell me what you want, or better just take me "
Oh boy, my H has pulled that stuff too. I find it works best if you just ask him not to say a word when he initiates. Asking just kills it so often. Maybe it's the baby voice, maybe it's the hesitancy, whatever. Isn't it already a given that sex is the follow up to "hand on the clit?" ??? Why do they need to do that?!
Yeah, I'd have to say hand on clit that is not immediately followed by hand on clit being pushed away is a question already answered.
How about "shuddap and f*ck (or other appropriate euphemism) me yah big man"? Emphasis on man to hopefully clue him in that there is nothing remotely childish going on here. Followed up by some hip gyrations to let him know that hand on clit is welcome. If I didn't already have a clue, that would get me going. Of course that is JMHO and may be too "firm" for your H (although I cannot imagine why) or it may be too close to you initiating. Take it or leave it.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
How about, "Cut. Take two. This time, I want you to channel Antonio Banderas, instead of Baby Kermit. And...action!"
Feel free to insert someone other than Banderas. He's about the only guy I can think of and get a little uncomfortable with my own stance on heterosexuality. But don't tell Blackfoot or Burgbud. They'll get all Charles Bronson on me.
Feel free to insert someone other than Banderas. He's about the only guy I can think of and get a little uncomfortable with my own stance on heterosexuality. But don't tell Blackfoot or Burgbud.
Bring it up outside the bedroom. Tell him what you do like about what he does in the bedroom. Reminis about a time when he went for it.. remember when... I like that..
Then look at him... you know the baby talk, I dont feel the things I like about you when you do that. I want my man, sometimes I want my marine . Would you please not do that anymore. then give him a kiss and leave it be.
Do it and get it over with, so you can move on.
or deal with it right then and there. Stop him and say H that kills it for me. If I were to talk [really deep gruff voice] like this while rubbing you would you like it. Then laugh and make fun of yourself, and do the deep voice thing again. [deep gruff voice] Im HP and I wanna rock your world.
there is lots of ways. your just jittery about his reaction. Im sure youll come up with something better
gonna have to start calling you virginia, cause you come a looong way baby.
I am going to be the contrarian on this matter even though baby talk turns me off too. I think when your partner does something that you don't find sexy you need to ask yourself what they might find sexy about it. People usually baby-talk to babies right? I think that maybe he was just doing the psychological equivalent of dressing you in a babydoll nightgown. He was trying to make you more bottom, not trying to act bottom himself. So if you could see it that way you could respond by doing something like sucking on his thumb provocatively (my new favorite word).
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Next time he goes baby on you, flip him over and aggressively take him in your mouth, get him hard, then stop and tell him "next time you baby talk me in bed, I am going Lorena Bobbitt on your a$$", then finish him off.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
"next time you baby talk me in bed, I am going Lorena Bobbitt on your a$$"
Now, as I recall, Ms.Bobbitt went all Lorena Bobbitt on Mr. Bobbitt's penis. Honeypot would have to have a pretty big mouth to bite off Mr. HP's a$$.
I'm just sayin'. . .
I actually like bf's idea of talking gruffly while rubbing him. Muster up your best Jake Gyllenhaal imitation and say, "I shore do like yer weiner, Ennis. I wish I knew how to quit you!"
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