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You will work it out, no matter how far appart you got in the past, it won't be asap silly , it will take a while, all good things take time.

My H and I also have convos about the war and we dissagree. I always make sure to calmly stop if I begin to feel too mad about what he is saying. We all have our opinions, so I just want to agree to dissagree and move on.

Well more drama. My W left to go home to DE about 3 weeks ago. She left our dog at our house with friends that were suposed to watch it. I told her to take the dog to DE or get rid of it. She didn't listen and wanted to do it her way. I left our house on Jan 6th. the house was clean (NC house). My W went home to DE about a day after I left for a week. She came home the house(in NC) was trashed her so called "friends" didn't feed or let the dog out she spent the next 2 days cleaning. Itold her these people were not friends she should tell them not to call or come around anymore. She didn't listen the next day they were buddies again, she decided to go back to DE again. I told her to get rid of the dog. Being the brilliant person she is she let the same Aholes watch the dog. now she has been gone for about 3 weeks and I got a call from my command that my wife abandoned the dog with those people and that my house was in violation. No one will tell me what is going on with the house I told the MP to take the stupid dog. So I called my W and sent her money, to get down to NC to figure out what is going on and to get stuff straitened out. Why doesn't she listen?????? She does what ever she wants wheather it screws me over or not. Im tired of it now once again I'll be yelled at because she screwed up, I don't think I can stay in the military and be with her.

boy, she is having her little MLC. When are you guys going to be together again? is there any other way she can be w/you?

Im hoping she will visit on Presidents day for a few days. I will be going back to NC on the 19th of March. Her mom even called her nasty (her house keeping)and she doesn't need a kid or an animal. She asked me not to say anything to my W. Normaly her mom and I don't get along, but we have been recently. Is it posible for MLC at 24? I wouldn't doubt thts whats going on. Im doing my best to hold things together but its starting to strain me.

she thinks she "should've" had her time to sew wild oats, I'm guessing that's why she is acting up. She is still pretty young and I'm sure her deadbeat friends didn't help her inmaturity. I can't think of anything to have her "grow up" already, other than a steady environment w/you around.
Hang in there.