Quote: Are you implying that Dick Cheney is not insane?
I would say evil but not insane. Therefore, I think he is sexy but I also think that he doesn't deserve to be thought of as sexy. OTOH, I think Rush Limbaugh is the least sexy man on the planet. He does not have one quality that would attract me to a man. My most sexy man would be a cross between Mick Jagger and Lewis Lapham.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: Inititave is good for the early part of the R, but eventually the need for money kicks in, even it there is initiative but too few results.
OTOH, there are many men on this BB who make plenty of money but don't get laid. Also, as I recall there was a HD guy on this BB whose wife was morbidly obese and had had both breasts removed and not replaced and he was still yearning to f*ck her.
I think the healthy way to think about these issues is to simply realize that your partner's desire or lack thereof does not do a d*mn thing to change your actual objective level of attractiveness in terms of such things as physical appearance or money-making ability.
No HD person starts out posting on this BB by saying "I'm ugly and impossible to live with and my spouse doesn't want to f*ck me.". We all start out by posting something like "My spouse doesn't want to f*ck me even though I am attractive and wonderful. That makes me angry and frustrated." or "My spouse doesn't want to f*ck me and that makes me feel like I am ugly or unlovable and that make me miserable.". Somebody who actually was ugly and impossible to live with and was fully aware and accepting of the fact that this rendered him/her sexually unattractive wouldn't have to join this BB. Same is true for anyone at any level of objective attractiveness who was aware and accepting of their own personal reality in that regard. The ugly, ill-mannered person who accepts that life has dealt him cards and he has made choices that have rendered him ugly and ill-mannered is in no more need of validation than the beautiful, wonderful to be with person who is equally self-aware and accepting.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Sometimes, when BB sees someone at the store who is overweight, I ask her if being heavy nullifies one's sex drive. I tell her big people need luv'n too.
She thinks fat somehow lowers almost everyones SD. IE, if you are fat, you don't have a sex drive, even if one spouse is over weight and the other spouse is normal weight. Just my observation of one, lower drive spouse's way of thinking.
realize that your partner's desire or lack thereof does not do a d*mn thing to change your actual objective level of attractiveness in terms of such things as physical appearance or money-making ability. Jenny, how many arguments involve money?
Yes the HD person probally still wants sex but the LD partner usually is less inclined to feel sexual when there isn't enough money to go around or enough to pay for a lifestyle the LD person wants to live.
I think the healthy way to think about these issues is to simply realize that your partner's desire or lack thereof does not do a d*mn thing to change your actual objective level of attractiveness in terms of such things as physical appearance or money-making ability. Here here. I agree.
I am just as attractive as I act/conduct myself, no matter what BB tells me.
I knew a young woman who was a very serious athlete and bought some fake ones. She only had them make into B's, very modest. They looked great, her clothes fit better and she just blossomed.
I can understand that completely. from your reply though it doesnt appear that you have really put any serious thought or research into it. You can still breast feed afterwards.(dependant on insertion technique) I doubt many/any US doctors insert through nipple incision anymore.
Part of my interest in it is a semi-wicked desire to see what H would do if I were sporting a major rack. Would he still be avoidant?
thats what I thought. > and yes from what you have described about him he would probably be even more avoidant.
I think it was you (yes, I'm taking a brief moment to post today, it's going to be rare though) who said you'd be interested to see how your H would respond if you were sporting a major rack.
Rethink this. The only reason to get breast augmentation is for YOU, not for other people's reactions or perceptions of you (if this was you who said it.) Doing it in hopes of something happening....will lead to disappointment.
One of my dearest friends had the following done, hoping it would affect how her H reacted to her.
#1 Implants (pretty good sized ones too) #2 Tummy Tuck #3 Lipo, arms, tummy, ass, thighs
This made absolutely no difference whatsoever with how her H reacted to her....nada!!!
I feel like I can say confidently too that if I looked like those bleached blond whatever you want to call them's that my H had been viewing.....he STILL wouldn't react differently to me. Why? Because it's not the physical me he has an issue with....it's his own demons inside him and the relationship between us.
I'm with ya. I actually have a kind of morbid curiosity about it and fully suspect that it would make not one iota of difference in how H reacts to me. HE has no professed preference for large breasts. I would enjoy filling up some of the volume that breastfeeding a bunch of kids has taken away AND fitting in clothes a little better. That would be my reason. I seriously doubt it will ever take place. In fact, if I were to consult with a surgeon H would fight it tooth and nail.
