heatherg - thank you for your insight. the cat analogy works for me - although I'm allergic to them
UA - I did go over to your postings on Seperated. Sorry to hear what you are going through. But hopefully, he'll see how much you did really do for him and your D. Keep up the PMAs and the DB'ing!
If she is truly sorry and wants to fix the M, what are some of the ways she can make you feel special again? If you have read 5LL, what language do you speak and what are some of the things that work for you?
Show that she wants to spend time with me and that she is tuely sorry. However, I really want my M back so my advice is probably not what you want to do.
I would have and still would forgive my W for the A if she would quit but I do not see that happening.
Sorry for he lack of help here but my thought would be for her to truely show that she loves me and wants to make a valid attempt at saving the M. Would volenteer to go to MC with me so that we as a couple could work through all of the issues that caused the demise of our M. Would want to start to date again and start a new R that we could work on together and learn from our past mistakes.
Oh and I forgot....Make me believe her when she says that she is sorry.
Of course these are just my opinions here.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I honestly don't know at this point, but I hope to find out. My W's A is still ongoing, so I guess the first step wuold be convincing me that it is over. NO contact, return all the gifts, be open and honest about why and how long. Show remorse. I think just like DBing, alot of it would be just time and consistency.
Quote: I honestly don't know at this point, but I hope to find out. My W's A is still ongoing, so I guess the first step wuold be convincing me that it is over. NO contact, return all the gifts, be open and honest about why and how long. Show remorse. I think just like DBing, alot of it would be just time and consistency.
Sorry, no great insights.
and sometimes even those things don't matter...
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Quote: Show that she wants to spend time with me and that she is tuely sorry. However, I really want my M back so my advice is probably not what you want to do.
I would have and still would forgive my W for the A if she would quit but I do not see that happening.
Sorry for he lack of help here but my thought would be for her to truely show that she loves me and wants to make a valid attempt at saving the M. Would volenteer to go to MC with me so that we as a couple could work through all of the issues that caused the demise of our M. Would want to start to date again and start a new R that we could work on together and learn from our past mistakes.
Oh and I forgot....Make me believe her when she says that she is sorry.
Of course these are just my opinions here.
How do you make someone believe that? I've cried, raged...been quiet and soft. Told him that if I could open up my heart to show him I would....
None of it seems to work. He's afraid of being hurt again...
