Quote: How dare anyone tell me that should I meet another right now that the relationship is doomed because it's only been four months since my wife left my life for good?
Who was that great man who said 'Whoa, whoa, whoa?'
It's an opinion.
You know what those are like?
I don't think anyone is 'telling' you anything.
You ARE right, though. You and your spouse are a unique combination. Nobody can predict how your situation will turn out. I don't like to hear that so-and-so's W stayed gone 92 years. That upsets me and makes my hope drop. That's when I must realize that we are not carbon copies of each other. We also don't know what REALLY happened in someone's else's sitch, as opposed to what they are revealing. The guy who leaves out the fact that he beat his wife every day can garner a lot of sympathy for the fact that his W now lives in a Police Station behind sandbags and a machine gun! "Why'd she get that restraining order and automatic weapon?" duh...
People need some sort of reference. Jim Conway says that these affairs last an average of 6 months. Average.
If one affair lasts a year and one lasts a month, that's an average of about 6 months. It's a general time line, not an exact prediction. If someone is sitting there with a stopwatch and a calendar, they're fooling themselves.
Boy! We're all testy this week! What's in the water?
Oh sh*t! I just read that Stephen King story about putting something in the water..."The End of the Whole Mess."
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
Well there's advice and then there's support. I offered advice which I rarely do. It was not directed at anyone specific. This board is way too active for that now for me. I just try to share what I have learned along the way when I can. It is not a good idea to date until you are whole. I do not represent myself as a therapist or any other professional. Wonder.
