Quote: I dunno, I'd rather spend less time thinking about the OW!
Flip,
I know what you mean, but really overthinking something bothersome is actually a very good way to get through it. In a way it's like CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) which is used with OCD. With CBT one is "exposed" to bothersome thoughts regularly until they are no longer bothersome.
Eventually thinking of OW will elicit no bothersome or upsetting feelings.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Hang in there! It really does hurt and you're in a funny place right now dealing with some difficult things. One good thing, there is a lot of growth in this. Pain and bad experiences can make us stronger and better people.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Quote: Sorry but I LOL when I read that last part!!!!
If we can't step back and laugh at the absurdity of these sitches, then life wouldn't be nearly as much fun, don't ya think?
I have actually amended that prayer just a little: I hope she finds love and happiness with someone OF HER OWN. Don't need her messin' with anyone else's family, now do we?
I agree with that whole concept of wanting others to "learn" from this whole thing and not destroy other marriages (and children!). When I learned about the affiar I did say and do some pretty mean things to OW. And it's not that I'm proud of this or think it was right, but there's a part of me that did want to show her, if you hurt other people they are going to hurt you back. And if you do something wrong and disgusting it's going to haunt you.
But, on the other hand, I'd come up with vindictive things and finally had to stop myself. Doing too much of this only makes me the "bad person."
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
