1210, flexible, did you say flexible? When my W is stressed (which is most of the time) that word is unheard of. She so wants control but doesn't really feel she has it, these are the ways she tries to gain some. It won't work but, hey, it's her trip! What I realized later was that I didn't take a pro-active stance here. I know she is not a easy going traveller yet I chose to somehow fool myself or just neglect reality. I could have stepped in to prevent this mornings events, but did not. In the past, I have addressed such concerns with her but have found she gets so defensive that it becomes pointless. It's just one more thing where she gets to play "you are Mr. Perfect and I'm the one lacking", so I try not to go there anymore unless it really must be done e.g. the kids. Wow, if this A is making her life so much more happy then I'm sure missing something Thanks for checking in on Chris, he's just so damn emotional he's gonna screw it up for himself if he doesn't get a grip.
Hey, did I mention that the overnight trip we are going on is to the same place W went with OP? Isn't that special ! W wanted the girls to see things there. I arranged the hotel so it's not, to my knowledge, the same one she stayed at but who knows! Just another little piece of drama to toss in.
We'll be off soon, so I'll check in tomorrow night.
Oh, almost forgot, GO GIANTS GO!!!!!
Well, Whatis has returned! We all had a wonderful time, evereything worked out perfectly. One thing I tried to keepin check is my tendency when travelling to get all worked up about plans that get shifted suddenly or new ideas tossed into the mix, like "hey, why don't we go here too". I don't like the stress of rushing here and there especially when I have no idea how the Hell to get there. I don't need to experience everything! I like to be laid back and go as time permits whereas W likes to have 10 places to visit and time for about 7. So, I over react when I see her trying to ram to many things into a day. This time only one extra place was popped in and I said "Sounds good, let's do it". It worked out well. The kids had a great time (even D12 who still insists you can't have a good time with your family, even though she was smiling for most of the weekend). I did feel a pang of jealousy when I saw W buying something for OP, but again, that is but an assumption. I just let it go, if I let all that little stuff bog me down I'd just go insane so I don't. So now we are now back to the daily grind, you know, her cheating on me and me getting pissed off Life goes on!
AT, Niagara Falls! We had dinner at the Revolving Dining room at the Skylon Tower, it was wonderful. Apparently, W and D9 cooked up this trip idea. D9 even planned much of the itinerary, so W didn't have to cram a million things into the short time we had. I enjoyed it greatly.
Tom, we've done the behind the Falls thing but never the boat trip, Maid of the Mist. And yes, there is a great deal to do there, besides the Casino! It is one of the Wonders of the World, the Canadian side at least
1210, I just made the appointment for next Thursday. I'm pretty nervous right now! But, I'm also at a point where I don't know what to do next anymore. As I've said before, I may have done all the things that are easy to do emotionally and it may be time to do the things that are not so easy. That scares me. We'll see. Part of me really thinks that the only thing that may stand a chance in turning this around is LRT or some kind of ultimatum. That's not where I want to go but ... It's one thing to make ultimatums but you have to follow through. My kids are my world and separation is quite frightening even if it is done amiciably. I also wonder how long W's OP can live being the second fiddle here. What kind of life is it to sit around waiting for my W to grace your presence for a few hours each week? But then again neither of them are that healthy, are they? Thanks for asking, wish me luck...I really am scared
! W wanted the girls to see things there. I arranged the hotel so it's not, to my knowledge, the same one she stayed at but who knows! Just another little piece of drama to toss in.
Life goes on!