Thank you for the b-day wishes...yes, you did have quite a week...but I'm here again - so get in shape...eat more of those pretzels...we don't like real skinny guys... :shock
No, I don't believe that stuff at all...it's another name for boredom in a M...
I don't know...but I am getting apprehensive - stuff will appear that I thought was buried in the thought tank. All day today, I couldn't help to think, what if I don't want this now...it's fear of the unknown, I know that, but I am quite content with myself...been there, done that, sort of thing. I have to let myself think anything it wants to, for now - then it will settle all down and the real issue will be plain to see.
Well 1210.. I would guess you will learn quite a bit by observing his actions to you... and interactions with others . I understand your apprehension and ambivalence also.
Okay.. so you dont believe in the MLC..Is it also boredom in life in general even if there is no M ? That is an awfully strong way to reenter the life of your xw btw ! Superbowl tickets in hand... and the rest? To me it just sort screams out.. Hey !... Look at me ! An overwhelming thing... Obviously I dont know the XH.. but I do know men. I would not send over "our friend" to check out you sitch.. I would not just show up and do that.. but that is me... I just want you to be ok.. and not get into another mess. Geez, I sound like a dad here.. anyway..
I think you might have missed my point. I don't believe in MLC - it's unhappiness in oneself that erupts at a definite point in time...be it M or not.
No my XH isn't in MLC - no, don't send that overbearing she/he thing here - I think he really wants to try, but he isn't stupid - he knows to be on good behavior, but I want to see action. I would like us to go slow, be nice, no pushing the sex angle yet, just let nature take its course. I haven't told my family yet - I'm going to wait, if it does work out, fine - if not, I don't have to hear anything negative.
But what would make him think it was ok to just show up ?
Maybe I am missing something ? I thought you had not seen him for what.. 3 months..no communication.. and then suddently you get a call from his friend .. and he tells you that your ex-husband and his GF are planning on moving to a new place...(atleast he called !)....
and then suddenly... the superbowl... and I dont know ? Just seems really wacky to me !
Oh, now I see what you mean. Well, I think, he was wondering what state of mind I am in, concerning him. It seems my positive attitude about him and the OW, led him to believe I was totally "angry free" and not angry we D'd. It was more of wanting to know if I would receive him well. Actually, I was more shocked, than anything...I finished off the rest of the bottle of wine.
His friends have always been nice to me, so it was probably the best thing to do. I wasn't home Sunday night until really late...he could have come by then, but my car was not in the driveway. My whole take on this is, maybe there were things going on with the OW that he didn't like, but kept her around. We haven't talked for ages...what would I say, how are you and ________ doing?
The superbowl tickets he gets from people in his line of work...he takes a little off the price of cars...no big deal to him. When we were M, his "network" furnished the house, landscaped, put curtains in, wall to wall new carpet, all that stuff... Actually, I really don't watch the game...I use binoculars and watch the crowds...eat hotdogs...drink soda, go to the bathroom, buy souveniers, etc...stand up when necessary. We had season tickets to the Dolphin games...same thing. I once ate 4 hotdogs during one game!!! I threw up on the way home...it was nasty.
He knows I like Prince, so I'm going.
I really think George is the "key" to all of this. I think he told my X that things were going well, etc., I was very happy...so he's checking it out.
We really had a long dating, engagement, process. It just went south during time...plus the A's...but I think he does realize now, that I wasn't doing anything different than what he was doing. My B-day was also the catalyst, it was always important to him and his to me. I started the ball rolling by going to the funeral, then sending him a b-day gift in september...that started the turnabout...plus I left him alone during his time with the OW.
