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Wow 1210, what a weekend. I feel like I am preaching to the choir here, but step lightly my dear. Take it slow and enjoy the huge comeback. I loved your post, it really touched my heart and made me realize that the level of detachment is what really matters. We have really missed you around here, but CM and I tried our very best to fill your shoes with Ben. Glad your back young lady....

Ian

AT

I don't know... I'm going to see how he reacts between his
friends at the game and of course around me...I haven't
the foggiest idea if he has changed...time will tell.

I guess his friend George came back to him with a good report about me. That was pretty crummy of him, wasn't it?

I am so prepared this time...I know the signs...I know the
BS that comes from him...

You know what really struck me? He asked for a tour of my
house, walked around etc. He came into my office room, looked on all of the built-in wall shelves, like he was
looking for any signs of pictures with him. There were
none...

How long have you two been divorced?

Kristy

It will be a year in January. So now, I'm wondering if he
realizes the implications of a year or he just needs a date
for New Years.

well... you know.. sending George to scout it out.. etc.. yes.. that is PC.. and the tour ? Hmmm.. well.. you know what to do ! Take good care of YOU ! oh.. btw. You have other plans, right for New Year's ? Something..

Tom

AT

Yes, I could have other plans, but right now, I'm not going
to plan anything...I need to see him in action, I read
people quite well, it's part of my job - but I never did
think it was necessary to read him...he was the first person that I should have read...

Ian

Thank you...it seems to me that people's idea of detachment
is really not that...mine was total detachment. With kids,
the conversations s/b only casual and about the kids.

Now, if CM could only understand how important it is...

OH My dear friend 1210200SEVEN-

How I missed thee.

Frank D told me once that when we truly let go is when we see the "real" change in our sitch. It's not easy and I'm trying. I've hit a wall recently. Odd convo's I shouldn't be having.

Thank you for saying once again how important detachment truly is. Welcome back!!! You were truly missed!!!!

1210, This is great news. It only goes to show that you never, and I mean never, know what is around the next corner. Often we let our minds draw assumptions and live in the fear of those assumptions, when if we just let go we can find joy in which ever way it turns out. Thanks so much for sharing your news. Now just remember, you aren't a wallflower or just a showpiece, don't ever let yourself be put in that position again. I hope this time H can truly recognize you for what you are and not for what he wants you to be. Let the games begin ! Oh btw, happy belated BD

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that was going to start in 2007

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Well looks like you ideas of dating are starting in 2007. Just so happens to be with the X.

Again happy B-day and we really did miss you. Hell you are gone for a week and now my sitch seems to bee 100% different. However I feel so damn good about myself it is not funny.

I am not going to tell you anything that has already been posted because you already know all of this. However, I will tell you that I am happy that you had such an outstanding B-day. Mine is right around the corner I hope that I can have a great time as well ( not w/the W of course but with me and my friends). Well Again I am glad to see you back. I was starting to get a little worried about ya because it seemed like you disaapeared.

Also, At, Ian, and Mess must have putt on a lot of weight with eating all of the pretzels that they have since you have been gone.

Take care sista and good luck with everything,
O