I'm going skiing and don't know if I Can get on the net then. I'll think of your questions though and get back to you this weekend. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I named the same thread as Mark which is Winning the Control War with Love in the forum "I'm thinking of leaving. I hope you get some time for your review. In the mean time, have fun skiing. Rocco
I think I know part of the reason it is so hard to learn and exercise patience. My normal attitude, plan of action, belief, is that when you have a problem you should face it and try to fix it, not put it aside and wait. Unfortunately, I have to put this aside and wait. I can't fix it by talking, argueing, or using logic. I have to wait for W to figure some things out, and in the meantime, I have to live with this problem hovering over me.
If I can throw myself harder into GAL, and work, and family, maybe I can feel enough like I'm DOING something that I can relax a little more.
Today, I've been more productive at work than I have been for a long time. It's felt good. I'll try to do more.
M45, W4,S15, D10,
Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06
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You got it kirby, this is something that you cannot fix with your regular tools and technical abilities. I did the same things you did, I want to talk about the R and to try and find what was wrong. I tried to reason with the W, but those things don't work. I have tried to detach in a way and keep in my mind to be the person I was before my W me. It just makes the GAL and PMA more difficult if I dwell on thinking about what the W and OM are talking about, if they meet during lunch breaks, if she calls him on the way to and from work.
Less of the thinking about them makes this a little easier.
