I think it irritates him that I am being so nice to him. I think he just wants me to be mean and vicious so that he can just say "screw this" and his decision will be so easy. But I am not going to do that. I couldn't be more kind and loving if I tried.
I know that she clouds his mind. She is probably telling him so many lies about me. But I am sure (I hope) that he knows that they are lies. He knows that what I tell him about her is the truth. Right now he can't see that all he thinks he has with her is based on lies. Until he sees that, there really isn't anything I can do but to sit back and watch him hit rock bottom with her and the choices that he is making. Then I will be one that he knows will be there with open arms....
You have helped bail him out in alot of ways too. Just don't let him take advantage of you. He tends to use your name alot in excuses and I know that all of them are not true.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
By the way, did you really wreck your car? If so, are you ok?
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Well, I just spoke with H and he was trying to explain in his little way, what was going on at work. He claims that there is a new STNA there and this person has accused him of abusing a resident. Now if any of you knew the old H, you would know that he wouldn't hurt a fly....but we are talking about the H that I thought would never have an A nor lie to me....we know where that has gotten me. But to be honest, I don't think he would hurt one of the residents. But we also have to look at his little altercation with the OW's H. So right now, I am not too sure what to believe or how long to trust him with the kids alone. His patience level has always been very low but again, I don't think he would physically harm the kids.
Those are just my thoughts. He did get a little upset that I had talked to the Admin but I didn't tell him everything that was said. I just said that he was asking me some personal questions and I had told him that H's emotions were all over the board right now. He said "that doesn't help." I told him that I didn't know what was going on. How am I to know what I am to say and not to say. Anyways, I am not going to start lying....not now!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Wow, a lot going on the last several days. OSU has been trying to tell you to back off, and I agree. You have to stop focusing on/worrying about H's situation. Current events may bring him to his knees, then again, they may not.
I agree. I saw him tonight and he just can't quite understand why things are happening to him. But I know...there are too many people praying for him to escape it all. I told him that I am here if he wants to talk. Things are starting to get to him, he started to well up with tears tonight.
I am sitting back and watching as things unfold. I will begin my reading of DR.
Thanks Aud!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Hey, Take care of yourself and those kids. As far as J goes with the kids you know for a fact that he would never hurt them so get that stupid a$$ thought out of your head right now. He adores those kids and they are his life. He does not act like it right now but that is because he is probably scared to be around you because of the guilt and the fear that you will start talking about the R. I know if I were in his shoes I would be afraid to be around you right now. No offense but you need to just be a friend right now and quit all R talk and just make him feel comfortable when he is around. The more comfortable he feels the more he will come around.
Put yourself in his shoes for a second.
It seems like everytime you talk to him the R comes up one way or another and he starts to cry or becomes introverted (Iknow big word for me ). Would want to be around someone that made you feel this way? I am not saying you are trying to make him feel this way but I am saying that you are not trying to make him feel comfortable either.
Take a step back and just think about it for a minute.
By the way funny story.
J was supposed to come over last night after he was done watching the kids. I told him that I was in the bath and that I would call him when I got out. Well I put my phone on the ledge of the tub where D1 could not reach it, because she throws everything in the tub when I am in there, needless to say the phone took a swim last night and now I have to go and get a new one...
Later, O
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
). Would want to be around someone that made you feel this way? I am not saying you are trying to make him feel this way but I am saying that you are not trying to make him feel comfortable either.