Quote: I didn't talk to him at all yesterday and it was pretty painful. That is the first day in several weeks that we haven't talked.......was a miserable day.
Get rid of the expectations. All they do is kill you.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
yeah..pursue me?!?!? How will that ever happen when I just looked at our cell bill. It seems like after everytime he talks to me, he calls her..... just makes me angry. Then he calls her 12 times within a 11 minute time frame. Almost like he is looking for her. I pray that this is because he doesn't trust her. I am not checking the bill to see how often he calls her, just to make sure he is not shooting our minutes out the roof. I can't afford to pay for their extended phone conversations.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I don't know....maybe guilt of talking to me when he is suppose to be pursuing something with her...... I couldn't tell you. Only he could answer that question and I wouldn't believe anything that he says. When I noticed him calling her 5 or 6 times in a row, with 1 minute each, that tells me that she isn't answering. In my mind, it looks as though he doesn't trust her. He thinks that she is with the XH, which she very well may be. I don't know what his mind is doing. I talked to him the other night (when you were going to meet him in Carroll to go shopping) after she had lied about talking to me. I asked him if he had found out why she had drug me into her excuse of not being home. His response was "no." I told him that I have not lied to him and that I have no reason to lie to him. He said "I know." Then I said "If the only way she is keeping you around is by lying, what does that tell you?" No response..... We shall see.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I believe that they don't trust each other.....how can they? Their 'R' is based on lies.
It is funny because he just called me. Asked me if I had called him at all today because his phone died. I told him no. I hadn't called since Wednesday. (I know that he was calling while she wasn't around. TOO FUNNY!) I told him I was giving him his space to do some thinking. He seemed a little upset because he mentioned taking Q to get a haircut and I told him that my dad was going to take him today. It bothered him....STEP 1! He has to realize he is going to miss alot of those times because I can't wait around for him to do it.
He mentioned coming over tomorrow and was going to see if you wanted to come over as well. We are just having a little cake and ice cream for Q's birthday.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Hell yea I will be there for his B-Day. I forgot all about it.
As long as you do not mind of course. Hell Your parents probably hate me....Guilty by association....
I agree he will miss out on a lot of things. It was his choice to bail and you are right do not wait around for him to make up his mind that he wants to be a part of the family. Stand your ground but do it in a polite and courious way(sp?).
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
No, my parents don't hate you. My dad is clueless right now. All he knows is that H isn't there. And mom knows that I have been talking to you and getting along with you. I really think J is afraid of both of them...GOOD!
I am going to continue doing what I am doing and he will see all that he is missing. Especially when I go to Las Vegas in January for my job. I had told him that he could go with me..guess not now. Unless he makes some miraculous turnaround by then.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
