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Trying! Hey, the important stuff first....my stripper name would be "Tippy 36th". Does that work? I didn't think so. If I could choose something else it would be FlufferNutter (something I never heard of until I moved to CT).

Regarding your sitch, I agree with Lissett on the length of your e-mails. I think I have caught up with your whole sitch...and it seems to me you might be better served by detaching a bit more from H.

Thanks for stopping by my thread!

Ok, just got home...when out with the girlies. One too many martinis, beers and vodkas. Hmmm, with divorce comes a lot of drinking. Oh well...i didnt drive, thank gosh. Well i am catching up on threads. No news is good news on my end.

My daughter told me tonight "momma, you are my bestest friend, forever." Oh, they know just when to say the right things...

Eeeeeecccccccccckkkkkkkkk, my alma matter FLORIDA IS GOING FOR NATIONAL TITLE!!!!!!!!!!! Yippee!!!!!!!!!! Finally....


Sorry SA, poor MI...

Hmmmm, my girlfriend called me this am. Seems her husbands cousin, who we all hang with, part of the "group", killed himself. WHY? Ugh, this was a man who was 34 years old, never married, wanted desperately to be or to even have a girlfriend. Just a very nice man. He was shy and quiet, but i didnt no so lonely. He must of been to have felt this was his only answer. I am sitting her thinking, what was so bad and sad in his life that made him do this? It didnt help anything.

I remember for a while we were tryin to set him up with my sister, who didnt want anything to do with him, after their first date. It was only because my sister was seeing my husband and my husband was getting jealous. Go figure...anyways, what a twisted triangle.

I just feel sorry for his family, what must they be thinking and going thru. As a friend, i just never new things were that bad for him. WHY didnt he reach out, why didnt he ask questions, life isnt perfect, but we can make the most of it. In death we can do nothing. What we are all goign thru is so awful, but as He has said..."this to shall pass." I just dont undertand why he didnt feel this too. Nothing is so bad, that you have to leave this beautiful place...

Please all say a prayer for his family and him. Hug all your friends...

Hmmm, weird thing happened today. Today was STBXH 31st Bday. I forgot! I got home tonight at 7 and have 2 mssg from him, for our dghtr, "hey daughter it's daddy. Calling to say goodnight. why didnt you call me today? It's my bday and i didnt heaqr from my favorite girl? Please call me, I want to see how your day was. Oh and hi to you too, (meaning me)." I felt bad cause i didnt have our dghtr call him, but HAPPY too that i just dont think about him. Its nice that i am not consumed by thinking of him.

You know what i am thinking of? On christmas day, i got him a few present that my daughter picked out for him, what sucks is that he wont even get a "gift from her for me" i would be happy with a card, that she makes special for me, but he would never say..."hey why dont you do something special for mom?" Same with last mom's day and birthday. But for him on fathers day his daughter got him a small gift. DONT MISUNDERSTAND...its not the gift, it is the lesson on recognizing special events on specaial days for the ones you love. Its the lesson of "GIVING". He is just to selfish. blah, they all are

Anyways, doing so very, very, very well!!!! loving life.

Hugs to all

Lissett, Santhony, Poohbear, Kidsaver, Was2Sad, BrandNewDay, Trying, Ashmo17, Praying4aMiracle, RainbowLove -
Will you please stop by my sitch today and catch up? I felt strongly that I needed to respond to my WAW's e-mail of Sunday morning which was sent to several people including her attorney and was vaguely accusatory. I feel good about my response (which I already sent)...but, I would appreciate your honest feedback (which you guys always give me)!
My Sitch

Well Happy Holidays to All!!! Nothing new in the land of the "stupid" (meaning stbxh) He is either extremely sane and clueless or beyond this world...He called me this am and asked, "Hey i am doing xmas shopping this week, is there anything special you want for Xmas?" DUH!!!!!!!
Hmmm, that's a toughie Let me say...maybe for you to come back from the outer limits and join us earthlings? Well i held my tongue and "simply responded, "a loving holiday for us and our daughter". He then snapped, "Come on i am being serious, i cant always guess what you want!" AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!
Ok, back to reality...I then hurried up and said, "oh, late for a meeting, chat later". I couldnt take it!! What an idiot. I apologize if i offend anyone, but this man is a total loss of all common sense. Blah!

Well on to better things...I HAD THE BEST WEEKEND!!!!!!!! I went to LAS VEGAS and met up with MissMyHusband, Cherrishher, WrongTurnatABQ, Sherman(shermie!), JJ24, and SoxFan!!! Wow, what a fabulous group of peeps!!! We had a blast!!! We all got in at various times and basically "clicked". What a wonderful thing to have; FRIENDSHIP, by the grace of God, in such a rough period in our lives. I mean we all really had such a great time, and it was genuine. I would venture to say the only "odd" moment of the trip was when we went to see a show. Hmmmm, we went basically to a porn show on stage. It was interesting, but weird!!! I actually feel asleep next to missmyhusband. JJ24 was smart and stayed away for that one. Hey to each their own, it was funny and an experience. OMG and you know what WrongTurnatABQ loves Budweiser!!! I never met anyone who likes that???!!! Have to pick on him a little.

Well stay warm all! Check in with ya later!

Last Christmas i was a sobbing miserable mess. I was visiting family in Texas, with my H and my sister. Everyone was asking what was going on with him and why are he and my sister glued at the hip. I was in denial, but my heart new. Last Christmas was ruined by him and her.

This Christmas I have VOWED, not to let him take away from the beauty of the holiday, the beauty of looking at it thru my daughters eyes. NO, i am living my life, I am still here, I have grown stronger, I have made positive changes, I have evolved. He does not get the pleasure of hurting me this Christmas, he does not ever get to ruin another Holiday for me. What ever I do and feel is up to me, not him. He has no say because he choose another life.
I AM entering a new phase in life and I will have an even better NEW YEAR. My resolution is to love;
love waking up,
love having my daughter,
love having air to breathe,
love having a warm place to lay my head at night,
love having family and friends,
love having a job,
love that i can see the beautiful sky,
LOVE THAT I HAVE A CHOICE

May you all have that love. May you all have a Wonderful Holiday!

Thank you all for helping me thru.

Love,
Trying

Good for you Trying! 2007 sounds like it's going to be a much better year for you. You sound so strong! Have a wonderul Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Trying! You go, Girl! Here's to an awesome Christmas and New Years for you and your daughter.

I just got a call from my attorney who said WAW's attorney called to see if I am "interested" in a new style of Divorce called Collaborative Divorce. I told her I couldn't think of anything I want to do more [sarcasm]! Nothing to do 'til after the Holidays...but, looks like W my have moved off of her place of indecision!