Wife keeps calling wanting money. I had a long talk with her today and she wsaid that she would feel better about where things were going if I would begin contributing to the finances. She wants me to put my whole check back in the bank. She said that she feels like I am just telling her that I am changing just to tell her what she wants to hear. She said that she feels like she is on a string. Funny thing is that I feel the same way. Guess I will be the one to start the ball rolling. I did call the OM last night in a fit of anger. This just upset my wife more. She was pretty mad this morning when I got to our hous. Money keeps coming up as an issue though. I think the mis management of the cash is the real reason behind all this. Got any input? I am not sure if this is an affair or a walk away wife.
Please do a quick recap, that is, if you can...you're living apart, does she have the house and are you funding anything?
I, too saw her on Yahoo, it's really gutsy, when you love someone and then they are out for the display of others.
You know, if you had a close friend that could set her up online, as if he was interested, then he could find out what her intentions are; does she plan to get D, what did happen that she left her husband, what does she plan to do is she finds someone, etc...that might give you more of an insight.
I hope you will try to work on getting her back, b/c you seem to really love her...but right now, the anger is really killing you. That, I understand, righteously so...
If you feel that the finances are the issues, then what would it take to resolve them? What can you do to help the situation?
Any chance you can simply use the jt acct to pay the bills and set up your own acct so you insure no financial problems ? If not.. then I would simply deposit everything in a sep acct to pay the bills..
communicate with the w about these issues.. set up a monthly expense list and budget.. and try to talk about it if you can. Just my .02 . The bottom line is you need to make sure the bills are paid no matter what and by living seperately from your home the w is probably dramatically increasing the expenditures. No calling OM.. Get to work on yourself.
