Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Divorced, But Not Done love never fails

Hey Liz,

Sorry so many bad things are happening to you - I really am. Have faith that everything will be okay for you. Expect to be blessed because you really deserve it. Times are rough right now and while it may seem you'll never make it out alive - you are reminded that God is watching over you.

(((((((((((((((Liz))))))))))))))))


Here's a little something for you...


EXPECT


I have promised that all your needs shall be met,
and that I will not turn a deaf ear to your cries,
when you call I will hear and answer.
I want you to start expecting to receive an answer.
Expect to hear my voice, expect to be blessed.
Why do you pray and don’t get ready to be blessed?
You pray without expectation.
My promises are true.

I need you to trust Me. Let me Lead and guide you.
I long to whisper words of love and affection in your ear.
I promised that I wouldn’t leave you comfortless.
You must believe that what you have asked for will come to past.

Trust in Me, don’t be moved by what you see,
and don’t be moved by what you feel.
Be confident that I have risen in your midst to bring healing, to bring salvation,
to bring victory and council to those in need.
Even now I am interceding for you and My Father always heareth My prayers.
I expect you to pray to Me, you must expect to receive your blessings.

Know that I have heard your prayers and I am bringing all that you ask to past.
I am bringing about a complete change in your life.
Trust in Me and believe that I am faithful to do those things that I have promised to do.
Expect Me to bring the natural in alignment with the spiritual.
I am the God of Abraham, of Moses, of Isaac, is there anything too hard for Me?

Expect to be blessed


God Bless,

Santhony

Things will turn around for you soon. I have to believe that for all of us.

I think you need to stop turning to him for support, even for your son. He obviously is uncapeable of that and all it does is leave you rejected. He isn't being a good father at all. If that were my son in the ER, I would have been all over it to get there. He didn't seem to want to be bothered. So, before he has a chance to reject you and your son don't even call him. Same goes about anything else like the car situation. He won't be there. Its just disappointing you.

I went out of town for a few days and had such a good time. It didn't stop me from thinking about WAH, but it did slow the process down. He was on my mind maybe only 50% rather than 90%. Keep busy. Blow exH off, when and if he wants to be a father then he will contact you. Right now its not your problem.

Hang in there.

Hey Liz ~ Checking in hope today is better and your weekend even better!!!!

So sorry to hear about your troubles. I have to agree with want2bmarried that it might be time to "go dark" with regard to your xH (at least as much as is possible considering you have children). DBing is a good thing, but there are times you have to protect yourself...and this may be one of them.

I don't recall if you mentioned it in a previous post (I took a quick review and didn't see anything), but do you have relatives nearby (or at least not too distant) that can/will/do support you?

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

(((((((Liz))))))))
Honey, this is just a bad patch right now.
It will get better.

Doesn't it always seem like when it rains, it pours.
I know exactly how you are feeling and it is time to be strong, stronger then before.

Do NOT call your ExH for ANYTHING except life and death emergencies.

Right now he just doesn't care and all that happens is that he brings you further down into the pit, and makes you depressed.

I do not know what arrangements you have for visitation or child support, but this must be done through a neutral party.

No coming to your home, or stopping by to visit.
Don't make any excuses Liz, you can always meet him outside to pick up and drop off S4.

Don't worry about Christmas or anything else that he should be a part of, right now he is in total selfish mode and you need to leave him totally alone.

Liz, all of your efforts to try and be kind to him and been turned around to slap you in the face.
You don't have to be a bitch either, but you do need to completely detach from this man.

Let him see what life is truly like without you in it.

So let me reiterate...
NO phone calls.
NO texts.
NO emails.

The only contact must be according to whatever court order you do have regarding S4, and that is a business arrangement.

If he doesn't contact you regarding his visit, document it and keep records.
If he doesn't give you money, contact the CSA not H.

((((Liz))))
So sorry you are going through this difficult time right now. Know that we are here to support you because we care.

I agree with the others here, your H is being so selfish and only cares of HIM, HIM, HIM right now. How can a man not care about his child...just makes me mad. He is not going to be there for you for support so it's time he sees what it is going to be like when you're not calling on him anymore. I KNOW how hard this is. Unfortunately, the fog is so thick right now, they can't see past themselves. When the fog starts to clear, he will see the world he's been missing on. It's taken me 11 months to finally let go and even now I have my bad days when I so desparately want to call but I don't. I find when I have no contact, I'm better able to focus on me and what is important in my life.

Liz, it's time you focused only on you and your kids. I know that God is watching over you and he will show you the path to better days ahead. Believe it. Stay strong. We are here if you need us.

(((((Liz)))))

Thread #4 - Life without H - cont'd

Liz, just checking to see how your weekend was? How is the situation with the car? Did you ever get to meet up with that guy???

Praying for you that things will get better.

Liz ~ I hope you check in. I have been thinking alot about you. Did you find anything out about your car?

Checking in, for those who might be worried or concerned.

No, my car hasn't been recovered. It's a real pain in the a$$. D13 is staying with her grandparents for the week so that they can get her back and forth to school (they live closer to her school than I do).

I've had a few situations arise with my xH, but you know what? I don't even want to post about it right now. I might later, but I just don't have the energy. The bottom line is that he's a jerk and he'll never see his own responsibility in any of this. I'm the bad guy in his eyes and he's going to do anything and everything he can to make me feel that way. My job is to NOT let it happen. He can think what he wants and tell people what he wants, but that's not the truth.

I know the truth. I'm a good woman and I was a good wife to him.

He's harboring a lot of anger and resentment toward me. It's like he totally hates me right now. I don't understand it, but I'm just letting it be.

I don't want him back, actually. I've come to a point where I'm really quite happy he's not around. He's OW's problem now. I'm moving on.

I did go on my date on Friday. I had to walk to the restaurant in heels in the freezing cold, but hey... sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. The date was willing to pick me up, but since I hadn't met him yet I was not comfortable. The date went well and he was very sweet. Not much chemistry, but that's okay. I think we can be friends and that's better than nothing at all. I let him drive me home.

I've got a few other men interested in me and I'm sort of feeling overwhelmed at this point. I never thought it would be like this. There's one man in particular who I really enjoy talking and spending time with. In fact, I think about him so much these days that I find that I hardly think about my xH at all. It's quite wonderful!

But don't worry, I'm not rushing into anything at all. I'm quite up front with the men I'm talking to that I'm not ready for anything serious (and that includes sex). I'm just enjoying the flirtation, the fun, the hanging out, and it's good for my soul.

So, that's about it for now. With the exception of finances, I'm doing all right. If a bucket of money could just fall from the sky, that'd be great.

Thanks for checking in on me, friends. I appreciate it.

I am positively delighted you have acquired some new male friends. This will do you a world of good (as you can already tell). Being the LBS is an ego-shattering experience that often makes you feel unloved and unlovable. Of course, that's not true, but it sure can feel like it.

But when you spend some time with a person of the opposite sex that finds you interesting, enjoyable, facinating, funny, witty, pretty, or some combination of these and, in general, desirable, it's such a wonderful feeling! Even if it's not serious, it gives you some much-needed balance.

Keep it up. You'll find that with a little time you will be able to look at your situation and WAH with greater objectivity and clarity. And once that happens, you can continue trying to save your marriage or move on to someone new based on a rational choice, not on a need driven by heartache.

So tromp on down in those heels. With a few compliments and a good time under your belt, you'll walk home on clouds.