You let sweetheart in out of your life at his choosing.....i just wondered where you were in the process. Where he is. I have to meet with a lawyer next week...I am afraid he is gonna tell me divorce is my only option...I dont want that.....i just want to run far away for a while.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
((((hugs)))) Honey I know that was hard for you but I am glad you did it. Before we get started, is there anything else you want to add because starting tomorrow we are not going to worry about Kevin and the childwhore anymore. Tomorrow is a brand new day. Get some rest we have loads of work ahead. XX
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Quote: I have to meet with a lawyer next week...I am afraid he is gonna tell me divorce is my only option...I
When you meet with your lawyer be in command. Tell him what YOU want and what you are going to do...don't ask what you should do...
Ask how you do what you want to do...
Divorce is never an only option. It is a choice. You may choose it...if you do not choose and it still happens, it is not your divorce...it is your husband's divorce. As you said, he will always be your husband.
The running far away...yeah, I get that one. I'd rather you do that. For the MLCer it's going into the cave...and the LBS needs to do it too. I know you have responsibilities...but at the same time, find a way to retreat into that cave...a place of quiet darkness where you can just be a lone with yourself. MAybe a retreat weekend--get away cabin. Or maybe time each day set aside.
While your lost husband goes off in search of his Self...you have permission to do the same.
That was a good letter...you got a lot off your chest. You released it to the boards...now release it from your heart.
I guess that pretty much said it except I just want to know WHY he did this to me..WHY he felt he had to treat me this way and cause me so much pain....WHY Kevin?????? What did I ever do to desreve this?
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
(((((((((((((PWS)))))))))))))))) You didn't do anything to deserve this! It's all about him, remember? It doesn't mean we can't make strides to be a better person for ourselves, but he chose to make the choices he did. My teenagers tell me all the time that H is acting like people their age. How astute is that for a kid to notice their dad is acting like an idiot kid? Someday if and when he snaps out of this, maybe he will be able to explain it to you, but don't stop living your life waiting for that! You may never know why he's being such an a##. Everyone here wants to know why... but it doesn't change the outcome. That's why they call us LBS...sad but true. The best thing you can do is try to not let it get to you and move forward. Then if for some reason he was trying to bring you down, you'll at least not give him that satisfaction! Become the strongest, best PWS you can. We are all here pulling for you! Hugs, Lou
I also wonder why he wont let me go......i cried and begged with the papers in my hands last summer and he wouldnt......he's moved in with her, made it so public by his actions yet wont divorce me. Part og the MLC insanity??
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
PWS Are you ready to move on a little further today, or do you want to stay here for a little bit more until you feel stronger?
In answer to your question, what does logic tell you? You know why he won't let you go. That my darling is the reason that we are going to fight for your marriage. That means toughening you up a bit.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
BND am still wiped going between getting up and moving or just laying in bed all day......i need to go grocery shopping panic attack sets in when i think of it. Want to be angry to motivate myself. But right now I am pathetic. I AM on a whole host of AD's....and valium dont think they are working. Tell me what to do next...i just cry alot. You are so kind. I keep trying to believe there is a little piece of him that doesnt want a D....but his behavior as of late....crushes that thought a little more each day. I guess I had no idea just how bad it was gonna get.....it just seems he is so much worse than he was a few months ago and now it is escalating daily
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
