Don't let it bother you. He is a lost soul right now. Look what he has for an ow. My C said they choose the bottom of the barrel because they are in such a bad place right now and it makes them look better. We both have the bp ow to deal with. I think it is hard to break away from the ones that have mental illness but it will happen.
Thanks for all of you for posting to me in my breif moment of weakness. I don't know why I got to going back to all of that right now except I am worried about dealing with the house issue and such.
Spending all day with my gf made me feel much better about things. We shopped a couple of places and then went to lunch at this nice place that had a big fireplace with a roaring fire going. We left, in what we thought was plenty of time, but couldn't seem to find the optomotrist's office. Finally we found it and just in time for her appointment.
She went in for her appt at 2:30pm and we got out of there at 5:30pm. They gave her the whole pre-op workup and scheduled her surgury for next week Thrusday. She, of course, is a little stressed with her loosing her vision in her other eye and there is nothing they can do about it. This sugury has to go well for her to be able to see clearly. Then you have to sign all these papers about not holding them to blame if something happens and that made me even feel somehwat apprehensive.
Had a call from my daughter saying she is flying back from her teaching seminar in Toledo today so I will hear from her later.
It was very cold yesterday but is supposed to be warmer today.
Wow guys, I just looked outside and the sky is the most amazing pink color in the clouds to the east as the sun is rising. Just call me crazy, but I went outside in the below "0" deg temp and took a couple of pictures. I hope they turn out cuz it they do I will post them to all of you. It has to be God showing me that he is with me and to lean on him for support and not worry so much because he is here to help me. Now I looked out again and the whole sky is pink. How amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just love a pink sky in the evening, how lucky that you caught one!
Have a good weekend and give GF a call. I think the docs can practically do those operations in their sleep, but that doesn't mean your friend won't be worried.
My wife has been gone for almost three months now, already filed for divorce and it could actually happen sometime before Christmas, though I've received no notice of a date yet. Amazing how fast these things can take place.
I just wanted to share a conversation I had with my wife this past weekend that kind of mirrors the struggle you've had with the things your husband has told you.
I had found the birthday card she gave me for my birthday at the end of August this year. I opened and read things I couldn't believe after the past several months. Of course this was before the saga unfolded. But the card said things like, "you are the one whose hand I love to hold , the one whose face I love to see , the one whose voice I love to hear " (bold indicates parts she underlined). She wrote on her own the words "to the man I'll always love, Annie XO"
When she came over this weekend, she began complaining about how she feels she is being separated from the family by me (this is because I was showing my S14 some pictures of him from a family vacation a few years ago -- I didn't show her so she was mad). Of course in my mind I tried to figure out how the one who left and filed for divorce, AND agreed to give me full physical custody of S14 could feel as though I was the one separating her from the family.
Anyway, in response to her complaining, I pulled out the card and read the things she had underlined and written. Then I said, this was written less than two weeks before you left, so what's the deal? Was it all a lie?
Her first response was to say that it was just my "mushy" card. I literally laughed at that one. Told her I didn't think she probably would have had to underline, in some cases twice, some of the things she did if she didn't feel that way. She then says that it is just the kind of card wives give to their husbands on their birthdays. At this point, fearful of just how pathetic the next possible excuse would be, I decided to let it go and go run some errands.
They truly be aliens.
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
I am reading alot but not posting much. Last night my H's daughter called for the 2nd night in a row to tell the jewelry from the party had finally arrived. I am sure she wanted me to say I would come and pick mine up, but she had the party, she made all the bonus points, and she can bring it over to my house. She also mentioned that she heard from H and that he had spent more money while she is trying to get his bills caught up so I quit getting and the nasty calls from the bill collectors. I know that she wanted me to ask about it so she could tell me what he bought so she could complain to me about how irresponsible he is, but I refused to take the bait. I just went on talking about other things. I am sure when she comes to the house she will tell me about it even if I don't want to know.
It is what is sure seems to fit. He has been spending lots more than he makes for the last few years trying to make himself feel better. He feels he deserves it and will not stop doing it until he hits the bottom. Thus my need to get his name off the house. I know his daughter would like to talk to me about that also but it is none of her business and I refuse to discuss it with her. Any discussions about that will be done through my attorney.
Wow, I feel really angry today for some reason. Angry and down really low. Guess I need to work my way out of this. My gf is having her cataract surgery today and I hoping all goes well for her. Guess it is about time for that special prayer for her before she goes in.
Sorry you're having a tough day. I don't know why they can't see they are ruining themselves financially and stop spending money like a teenager. Mine keeps complaining about wanting a new car. I'm thinking sell the motorcycle you bought with MY inheritance and then lets talk about needing another car. They are clueless!
Hope your friends surgery goes well. I really hope your day improves. I'll say a prayer for you this morning when I have my time.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Quote: Wow, I feel really angry today for some reason. Angry and down really low. Guess I need to work my way out of this. My gf is having her cataract surgery today and I hoping all goes well for her. Guess it is about time for that special prayer for her before she goes in.
(((Sue))). Maybe angry is what you're supposed to feel--your H is acting like a teenager and endangering your financial security--of course you're angry! Good grief, none of us want to reach this age and have some other fool pull our houses out from under us.
Meanwhile, I hope giving Snooky a bath has helped you--give her some extra hugs, it will be good for you both! And best wishes for your friend's surgery, everyone I know who has had it came out of it just great!
Thanks for posting on my thread, it was really nice to get up this morning to some "visitors."
Journaling: I am finished with cleaning a decorating for Christmas. I still need to get one more thing for my son and then that part of it is done too. I am really glad that I am almost done because it has been like a real job to do it.
I know I had to try to get H to sell me the house because of his big spending ways but I think that all I really did was push him so far away from me that he will never return. He hasn't talked to me in almost 3 weeks and that is the longest ever he has gone without getting in touch with me. I keep hoping that maybe it is a good sign and that he may be thinking about what he might be losing. That is probably not true though, he is probably just spending more time calling ow instead. I actually almost feel sick to my stomach.
Guess I will do some wash and get the bathrooms cleaned and then call it a day.
Hi Sue- How did the surgery go? I suppose ok, or you would have said so. You are doing really good with the boundaries. This is his battle. Let him deal with it. And after awhile, it's nice to get to know yourself again. (((Sue))) Take a little time for you tonight. DBH
I just finished shopping yesterday. It was a chore. I didn't enjoy it like years ago with h but I managed to get through and I know we will have a great Christmas.
Today, I like you got the house in order and cleaned like crazy. I usually do it anyways on Fridays but I took some extra time today.
Don't worry about your MIA h. Mine was NC for 7 weeks and then peeked out for an hour or two and then went back NC for 7 weeks, etc. It might be good news and maybe he is working on his problems. Only time will tell. I know it made the A wobble because of all the time they spent together without interference from me. The BP ow will let her real self show, just wait and see. Give it time and hang on!!!!!!!
