I can absolutely relate. My H has said he has been unhappy for a long time and while he doesn't say it every day, whenever we have a setback, like I sent him a letter in his lunch appreciating him, but he got upset because I hadn't been telling him all these years, and he started telling me all about the hurt again. The same things all over. I am sorry he is hurting, but I am also hurting. I agree it didn't just happen we both let the bad feelings and habits continue over the years and I hope we can repair it. I, too hope he will honor our marriage, because no matter what, that is the only right thing to do. He hears the preacher and the teachers at church telling us about marriage and divorce, and how God hates divorce, and he has been hearing this truth for more than twenty years, but I can only hope it is really sinking into his brain now. I don't know how your H feels about god's word on this, but maybe he will think really hard before he takes this awful step. Our H's can never be in a right marriage with anyone else as long as we live. My H knows this, but chooses to believe that God would want him to be happy elsewhere, but I kind of think he is starting to think about the implications of D. His parents love me and I think they would really be devastated, as would our S. If your H has alot of people who would be affected by D, maybe this will make him think more carefully. I hope so. How is it working out with him staying at home till he goes overseas? L
