Hi thanks for that post. It means alot when people care about you and know what your going through. Yeah I hope he does find out who he's been talking too....if he even has...but I'm sure he has. Yeah everybody's been trying to tell me NOT to back down on him or to listen to him wine to me about not taking his stuff. Hey he took a marriage that I trusted in and honored...all b/c I "wouldn't ride horses or fish and hunt with him". I have no house, no H, no future, nothing...all b/c of those things. Not a reason for a divorce!!! So I will not feel bad if my lawyer goes after his butt.ha. And if after I "take his stuff" and he still wants to come back later on down the road...well we'll see how I feel. It would be simple if he would just want to stop the divorce and work on the marriage..but instead he wants to LOSE everything b/c "we are opposite people". Crazy. Yeah I am going to make sure I look good...but it's hard to dress sexy b/c you can't look like a whore in court and you need to look classy at the same time....so I was thinking about wearing a short skirt with a fitted jacket with a tank top underneath and heels. I have to look respectable incase he wants to say I am a ho or something. haha. But thanks for the advice. I'm going to take from him whatever I can since he took everything from me! I know that is horriable, but I've tried to reconcile with him a ton of times during this whole 5 months separation and he won't change his mind. I haven't seen him since July and it is going to be weird to see him. Your right...I probably won't recogonize him at all and I will see him in a different light. People around town say that he has lost lots of weight and is really skinny. I don't know why....he should be happy now since he got rid of me...what do you think?? ha. I would love for the mediation to end the 16th, but I have a feeling it's going to take several before we go to court. He loves his money way too much and he has lots of it. Ok thanks for letting me vent!!! Tell me about your story!
Don't wear too short of a skirt; you will be in court. I want you to look good, not sexy or sleazy. Let him see what he wants to D.
One thing you said was that he lost weight? That sounds like he's in a bit of turmoil, which could be good for you. Maybe he's starting to be affected by all of this.
Just stay positive...be up and sweet...no nastiness. Show him that you are not going to crumble...it's the 180 again.
Yeah, I agree...you'll probably be there a couple of times. He will get nasty...remain cool and don't give in. You will really see him in a different light.
I, too, wish he would stop proceeding, but it sounds like he is more into getting what he wants.
By, the way, do your nails as well. Look great!!! A big key.!!!
haha do my nails?? Ok I will. I was trying to look like I didn't have any money so the lawyers would see that and get me more. ha. No the skirts not too short. I don't think he will even care what I look like...he just wants to move on. I don't know of any couples reconciling after mediation. I would think that would make them hate you even more. But hey he put me in this situation....what else can I do? All he had to do was work on the marriage and go tou marriage counseling. But no he wants to deal with this. People think divorce will make them happy....it doesn't!!!
You are too funny. You sound good. I agree with you not too many people recouncile.
I remember when I moved out of our house and I called STBXH and I couldn't sleep; H said get used to it. Well...I am. This is his loss and no one will ever take my place. He can do what he wants to, with whomever, whenever, wherever. I just hope that I won't be forgotten permanetly.
WTH do I do with the wedding pictures? I should maybe just bury them somewhere. LOL< LOL< LOL>
There is more to life than all of this pain...there has to be...but we will all get through it. What doesn't kill us will make us stronger. ...as I flicker and fade.
I forgot to tell you, my STBX and I went to counseling but he kept calling the guy a quack. It showed me that he didn't even want to try.
Everyone is different, every story seems parallel to the others...but something new is coming down the road. We just have to be ready...you do have a future, all is not lost.
I forgot to tell you, my STBX and I went to counseling but he kept calling the guy a quack. It showed me that he didn't even want to try.
Everyone is different, every story seems parallel to the others...but something new is coming down the road. We just have to be ready...you do have a future, all is not lost.
I forgot to tell you, my STBX and I went to counseling but he kept calling the guy a quack. It showed me that he didn't even want to try.
Everyone is different, every story seems parallel to the others...but something new is coming down the road. We just have to be ready...you do have a future, all is not lost.
Quote: I agree with you not too many people recouncile.
I read somewhere that 50% of divorced couples remarry each other. But I don't think that is accurate. If it is then wher are all of these couples?
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
yeah I had a backsliding moment too when i called him 2 months ago and told him how much I missed him and missed my friend and the man I married and i was crying. I couldn't help it. And he said "what do you think I'm going to do run back into your arms right now?" so hateful. then started to tell me he doesn't know why he married me and he only bought the ring b/c he felt like it was what he needed to do. What the %$^!!! i was like oh well thanks! they get so WEIRD on you. It's like "no one put a gun to your head and told you to marry me." He has alot of support from his mother and sister b/c they don't like me b/c I don't "fit" in with the family and they are encouraging him to do this. So he has LOTS of support. Oh the new rumor of why he is divorcing me..or the reason that he is giving people is "I beat him up." I am 5'2 and a 100 lbs and he is 6'0 and 180 lbs and I beat him up!!! I thought he has LOST his MIND!!! I slapped him one time in May when he told me he wasn't going to work on the marriage and he wanted out and I slapped him....so he has taken that and told everybody that I beat him!! I think people are not given him sympathy like he wanted since he has been telling them he is divorcing me b/c "I wouldn't fish and hunt, ride horses, go to the lakehouse or do anything with him". I think people are looking at him like what?? So now he is using that i beat him. Do you think a judge is going to believe that?? ha. He has really lost it!!! It makes you wonder....how did I not see this when I dated him?? Where was this crazy person hiding?? but I'm doing ok...not great...but I'm leaning on the Lord ALOT...he has gotten me through this. really he has. I pray alot and read the Bible more and lean on him. I know he has something good in store for me...and I think if it's meant to be for my H and I to get back together it will happen...if not then it never was meant to be. And now I'm thinking to myself "he must never have loved you and if he can D you then why do you want somebody that doesn't want you?" it's only taken me 5 months to get to that point, but still I would like to atleast talk about reconciling...and then i think ...do i really? Since he is so crazy now and I see the real person?? I don't know. I'm not on any antidepressants...which is great...i've been mourning and grieving and allowing myself to feel the pain so I can be able and move on and I want be mourning a year from now. Some people never grieve and they hide thier pain and then a year comes up and they don't understand why they are still grieving. So make sure you do that and that you don't cover up the pain...feel the pain now and grieve. And lean on the Lord. really get a close relationship to him. Thanks for your help ....maybe I have helped you along the way too.
...as I flicker and fade. 
