Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy I need advice...I'm lost :(

You are welcome.

I have an aversion to standing by silently while there's an enemy that's trying to drag somebody like you (and previously me) back down through shame and guilt.

I'll chime in at any point that I see that happening but it ain't always pretty so consider yourself warned.





AmyC

Went to individual C today and I feel alot better. It's the first real person other than the OW that I've discussed the A with in more than 3 years.

I know what I have to do...now it's just a matter of finding the courage to do it...i still don't know when, where, or how.....just that eventually, it will have to be told.

Do not sweat that right now.

YOU are not in the emotional state it will take you being in to get it out there in a manner that does something other than destroy.

I'm telling you, work on yourself first.

THEN on admitting and atoning for your transgressions.

Trust me.

Wish I could have read this back in Feb 2003....but would I have listened?
Anatomy of an Affair

I know I have to work on me....and I'm trying. I'm just feeling like such a failure right now. I've never felt this way before. The reality of my sitch is a tough pill to swallow.

Thanks for the wisdom...i need it.

Wow, that article really hits the nail on the head doesn't it? That's the thing though, the words probably would have just been words before we made our mistakes....because even when our mistakes began, never did we fathom that it would take the turns it does and that we would hurt the people we do. Forgiveness comes slowly, but we're gonna make it through my friend.