My H finally took the key to "his" room, he found a burnt rose on the driveway (I needed a lamp and went there and looked around a bit finding the movie stub and the vase w/the plastic flowers which he must've used for ow so I burned them and must've missed the trash when I was tossing it) So he said "you go crazy everytime you go there" and took the keys, I'm actually glad he did, there were days when Iwas feeling low and I'd go upthere to look for stuff, so it's better this way. Try not to look at old stuff anymore gal))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
it is like a play room he originally built on our backyard where he could store his junk and lift weights, he'd lock it because he had some stuff we didn't want to be stolen (dvd player, computer) I was always able to go up there whenever. After he moved out Ididn't even realized it was locked, that's were he kept lots of stuff about ow and stuff about his great escape. I have no need to go there, its filled w/junk and spiders, that was "his area", never cared for it.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Isn't it odd that we would look for things we KNOW are going to hurt us?
I used to stare at my H's cell bill as if it were going to speak to me and give me answers....I even said this out loud to myself...What are you doing this for like the bill can explain why he lost his mind...?!
Yes yoyo no more snooping is a fabulous idea. My Aunt would tease me that I should be a private investigator..LOL I do not do it anymore but the funny thing is it is soooooooooooooooooooooo much easier not to be a P.I. when your H tells the truth, and he is genuine, and you know he is committed.
Funny I remember burning stuff in our Weber grill a few years back they were pictures of My h and his crews and a few women too. Nothing terrible just normal pictures but I felt disrespected and I must say as crazy as it sounds I did feel better with every picture I put in the fire...
I wish I could burn the D*mn Tattoo...but that would probably hurt H HUH? LMAO Just kidding ladies, HMMMM what would Cat do to the tattoo? My girlfriend said she would "accidentally" scratch it "til it bled. SHEESH we women can be so destructive .. You ladies are hilarious, love ya... God bless...
My H has a little room of his own too. He has his big screen tv and high performance music machine in there. Although he has not locked it, it is generally off limits to all but him. There was a box of receipts which belonged to ow. Threw it away a few weeks ago. Did not go through it this time, as I already did about a year ago. (GOSH...time flies..) and it did hurt me badly that time. H does not even realise that it was there or GONE now.. So, slowly, bit by bit, I am gonna get rid of his/her stuff. Some of her stuff ..I am already using..so, he probably associates those things as mine now. LOL
Yes, we shouldn't snoop. But sometimes we need to SPRING CLEAN. Right???
Did I hijack your thread Cat03? Sorry...
My Aunt would tease me that I should be a private investigator I think all LBS could excel as Sherlock Holmes...
I'm sorry, but I can't help snooping. I think it's wired in me. I have an unquenchable desire for information (in practically everything that sparks my interest... and trying to understand H is one of them).
Personally (at least for me), I don't think snooping is a terrible problem. If anything it helped me piece together the affair, get proof and inform OWs huband that he's married to a floozy (of course, I didn't use such a nice word to describe her).
I was also very good at getting information too. The private investigation firm I used to get cell phone records offered me a job as well. When they couldn't get information about OW's husband I was able to find an enormous amount of stuff i.e. their baby's name and age, parents, grandmother, brother's name... much more than I ever wanted to know!
I'm not necessarily recommending others do this, but it's something I probably won't hesitate to continue at a reasonable level... like I won't sift through his wallet daily!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Quote: The private investigation firm I used to get cell phone records offered me a job as well.
wow! and I thought I was good!
Quote: and trying to understand H is one of them
ok, so I believe this too, i wanted to see where his mind was on such and such month when he was closer/far from me. I know he called her a few times after he came back, didnt' seen like they talked much, and the last time he attempted to call her was on July, a month before I found out everything, the irony.
Anyways, I also have to grab my hand so I dont' sift through his wallet, I want to keep that off limits, he has trusted me w/his cc bills, he must've guess you can see the history on them! anyways, let's keep the snooping to a minimun huh?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Just kidding ladies, HMMMM what would Cat do to the tattoo? My girlfriend said she would "accidentally" scratch it "til it bled. SHEESH we women can be so destructive .. 
