So once this is done, and he's married her and he has your girls and they're all living in perfect happiness at the back of his truck, what are you going to do for you?
If this is the big solution to everything, you've obviously thought of what you'll do when this is over.
So what will you do?
Who will you be?
Emily, please, please, please get therapy!!!! You're in the middle of nowhere with too many responsabilities and too many thoughts... you need help.
Last edited by Sandy_wants_to_try; 09/14/0604:29 PM.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
You sound like my H. Any time I back him in a corner or he doesn't get his way he hollars divorce. In between he doesn't mention anything about it and we get along. You need to stop doing this to yourself. You need to let go. I am not saying let go of him completly, just give him some space. Let him see her for what she really is. He will finally wake up and realize what a mess he has made of things.
Everytime something doesn't go your way you are ready to divorce him and send the kids with him. You are better than that. Those kids are better off with you. So what if he has a job and you don't right now. You can give them something he can't!!!! (LOVE and COMFORT) He is going to be giving you money to help you out. Give it a chance.
I don't believe for one minute you are ready to give up. If you were, you wouldn't be on here moaning and groaning. You would throw in the towel and move on with your life. The reason you say these things about him and the kids is because you do love him and you don't know what to do. Your head is telling you one thing and your heart is telling you something different.
You are obsessing on Cassie. You need to stop doing that. Stop reading blogs and my space stuff that you know will upset you. You need to focus on you and stop focusing on her. You are out there looking for things. The less you know, the better off you will be.
Listen to Amy and everyone else on here!!!!! You are making things worse than they are!!!!!
Quote: If he knows what he wants then why has he been lying to me about being with her.
look at how you are reacting over what some stupid B*tch that cannot even spell correctly wrote. This is why he cannot tell you the truth cause you cannot handle it. My h used to hide things from me too b/c I would go Ballistic like you are doing...
Honey calm down,,, he cannot tell you the whole truth b/c you explode. And you know I am absolutely not condoning his behavior. Why is she so mad, why is she blogging stupidity,, we will never know, unless maybe we all are 12 again and buy a Strawberry Shortcake coloring book. Was it SS???,, I used to love her anyway..... Actually my 17 year old has more integrity and maturity than this little B*tch.{{ h*ll all my children do...}}
But I would venture to say she is mad b/c she is not getting her way . boo hoo
....and she left her coloring book with Kevin... trying to make you laugh...
Anyway,,, yes my h said alot of stupid stuff to his Ow too and in fact told me stuff that is etched on my brain now that I am talking about this subject again. you need to let it go.... For yourself and for him and for your girls.
Quote: Everytime something doesn't go your way you are ready to divorce him and send the kids with him. You are better than that. He's divorcing me AND taking the girls. Because he knows he is in a better position than me. Look at what I have . . . . $591.06 that HE gives me a month and low income housing. HE thinks (and I'm starting to think he is right) that any judge in his right mind would give him our girls. Those kids are better off with you. So what if he has a job and you don't right now. You can give them something he can't!!!! (LOVE and COMFORT) He is going to be giving you money to help you out. Give it a chance.
Sandy you asked what I would/will do after he divorces me and has the girls. I've thought about this a lot . . . . and I just don't know. MOVE. . . . I honestly will just pick up and go ANYWHERE. Away from EVERYONE that ever knew me and just do whatever. I don't care if I move every 4 months and only work part time jobs to keep a roof (even if it's a motel roof) over my head. I'm just going to take off.
Yes Alimari it was Strawberry Shortcake. I always hated her to tell you the truth. Funny huh? Yes Cassie does act like she's 12 . . . that's part of why she and I never got along. How am I suppose to know what's going on!?!?!? Sure that day at that hour she wasn't with him. But he didn't leave that area until 7ish that night . . . he could have easily picked her right back up.
He's leaving me for her and he's going to take every good thing I ever had. He can take my kids. . . .
Sandy you asked what I would/will do after he divorces me and has the girls. I've thought about this a lot . . . . and I just don't know. MOVE. . . . I honestly will just pick up and go ANYWHERE. Away from EVERYONE that ever knew me and just do whatever. I don't care if I move every 4 months and only work part time jobs to keep a roof (even if it's a motel roof) over my head. I'm just going to take off.
And you plan to visit with the girls? Do you want to see them regularly or you just want the whole family out of your life?
Could you live with never seeing them?
Can't you do this WITH the girls? I really think you'd be better off in some bigger town, where you could get support and a job easier.
He's leaving me for her and he's going to take every good thing I ever had. He can take my kids. . . .
The judge wont give your kids to him... he's a truck driver who's on the road all the time. It doesn't matter if he makes more $ than you now. If that were the case, most kids of divorced parents would be with their dads right now. He'll give them to you because you're their mother. Your kids are more likely to go to child services if you tell the judge you don't want them.
Emily sweetie... stop the cycle! It doesn't have to be this way. Stop feeding the bad wolf (since you liked that story). Stop the negative thoughts. You CAN do this.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
Quote: And you plan to visit with the girls? I don't know Do you want to see them regularly or you just want the whole family out of your life? I'll always love them
Could you live with never seeing them? It'd be easier than watching them grow up in another family. . . because my H just couldn't love me.
Can't you do this WITH the girls? I really think you'd be better off in some bigger town, where you could get support and a job easier. I have no way of getting into that position though. My H and I were going to move to Brookville PA . . . which is a smaller town but in a BIGGER area . . . . but if he is divorcing me come next week . . . I guess that's out.
The judge wont give your kids to him... he's a truck driver who's on the road all the time. It doesn't matter if he makes more $ than you now. If that were the case, most kids of divorced parents would be with their dads right now. Most other Mom's have a job and don't live in low income and still live off of the scrapes that the child support gives them. He'll use every dirty trick in the book . . including all the personal info I've ever given him . . . he'll drag it all out and make an ass out of me in court. . . so I won't fight him. Besides he can afford a lawyer I can't. He'll give them to you because you're their mother. Your kids are more likely to go to child services if you tell the judge you don't want them.
Emily sweetie... stop the cycle! It doesn't have to be this way. Stop feeding the bad wolf (since you liked that story). Stop the negative thoughts. You CAN do this.
They're not just negative thoughts . . .I've just finally unearthed the truth. I'm not feeding anything. How can think towards the positive when this is the way it is. He loves her NOT me.
Make no mistake, there's not likely to be a judge within the State of Pennsylvania that will give Kevin custody of an infant that he's never walked the floor with and never rocked to sleep or a two year old he is at best, an acquaintance of.
You are blind.
But it is by choice.
The fact is you don't WANT to do the hard, self-sacrificing work to save your family.
You want someone else to do it for you.
You've sure got a hell of a lot of 'quit' in you, Emily.
