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Yea, and apparently he's managed to make C's wife compare my friendship with C to HIS predatory relationship with her.

C and I have talked on the phone many times. We have spent hours on the phone, actually. But here's the difference:

We talk only about our marriages.

In fact, I know very little about C, other than what relates to saving his marriage.

We talk to each other when we are down, in order to boost each other. When he feels like giving up on his W, I tell him not to. When I feel like giving up on my H, he tells me it's all going to be okay. We cheer each other on. We help each other DB.

There's certainly nothing more, and for Striver to suggest that it's the same thing as what he and C's wife are doing makes me sick to my stomach.

I came here for help and found friends in the process. Striver came here looking for a way to soothe the pain of his wife leaving him. Sadly, it looks like C's wife will be the temporary relief he needs.

. And I think that maybe what you truly desire is coming to fruition. But these things do take time. As I asked of you before, please dont give up on us (!) yet.


OK - that isn't someone trying to help!! "don't give up on us (!) yet"

Wake up folks - this guy has no Mrs S or marriage issues, he came here looking for prey. God knows how many user names he has here and how long he has tried or succeeded in doing this. This guy is a dangerous scum bag.

Hello again everyone - and thank you for the support. As Liz pointed out, this is very real and it is happening. Striver feels that it was out of their control...it just happened...they have something "real".

I am very concerned that he is a predator and yet, I realize that there is little I can do. I must admit that I did not mind or worry about her talking with Striver because I knew her intelligence and judgement would NEVER allow her to get involved, let alone travel half way around the globe to see someone she does not know. It's just too crazy and she is an intelligent woman. I truly am scared for her and fear that she is walking into a situation that she will have no control over. She is an adult and can make her own decisions - you are right...but I do not believe that this is using sound judgement by anyone's standards and I am very worried about her.

Maybe she will come to her senses when she realizes her fantasy doesn't match the reality.

This has got to be the most insane thing I have ever heard.

Striver ~ I am sure you are still reading because this current discussion will feed your stupid, sick ego right where it needs it.

Mrs C. ~ You take the friggin cake.
There is NO excuse for this behavior.
Show your husband a little respect by at least sparing him that pie-in-the-sky bullsh*t about it "just happening".
You are an incredibly ignorant & cruel person.

Be sure to get tested for STD's when you get back to the States.

Cherish

words cannot describe what I'm feeling after reading this. I can't imagine what you're going through.

you seem like the type of guy that can climb any mountain that is put in front of him, and while this sitch is like Mt Everest, this might be the push that pushes you over the top. If my comments are out of line, I hope you forgive me as they are well intended.

to Mrs C and the preditor.

The line of " it just happened" is utter bullshit. you "met" on the net, what, two months ago? and you think what you "have" is so supereme and above all else, that you can use it to hammer the final nails into a familys coffin??
let me clue you in. we as humans have something the stray dogs in the street don't have. That is the ability to reason. to weigh the pros and cons of a situation and make the best decision for all involved. you havent demonstrated this ability, rendering you the equivilant of said stray dogs.

Mrs C
no matter how wide the brush, or how expensive the paint. you will NEVER be able to paint a picture of your actions to you husband, your children, your family, that will hide the raunchyness, the selfishness, the completely insanity of your past and present actions. once you cross the pond, you will not be thought of as the "strong, intelligent" woman you so want to world to see you as. you'll be regarded as just a thoughtless, selfish "tart" that destroyed a family that only wanted to show you that they loved and supported you.

striver:

there is no excuse for you.

there is no forgiving you.
you're the scum on the ring of a toilet bowl.

you acted like you "shared" cherrish's pain to abtain a selfish and evil gain. you deserve every bad thing this world has to offer you.

I apologize to the board and most of all to cherrish for my blunt post. I couldnt find a way to sugar-coat it and I felt it needed to be said.

Cherrish, I wish and pray for you that you get what you deserve, and that is peace and happiness.

Cherish,

this is really a bizarre development and you have my deepest sympathy. I have to agree with Missing. At the momemt your W is deluded by the fantasy of this person, and cold reality may be a nasty shock for her.

Do you have any friends or family in the UK where she can stay, or at least have a safe refuge to go to if she realises what kind of man this Striver is? I have to say in the light of this development I find his posts rather disturbing.

One thing to keep in mind here is that Mrs. C does have a mental illness. I believe from the posts that she has bipolar disorder. I had a friend in college who suffered with this and I've worked with children who have it and I can tell you they don't always act rationally. Certainly, medication helps, but depending on severity and correct usage of medication, judgement can be severely impared.

I'm not taking responsibility away from Mrs. C, but based on this she's likely MUCH more emotionally vulnerable then your typical person.... and this Striver character probably realized this and chose her as a victim based on it. When you think about it, there's truly no other reason someone would choose to strike (yikes!) up a relationship with a weakened and confused woman who has a mental illness. This is not someone seeking a healthy relationship. This is someone looking for a victim.

What????? this is just unbelievable!!! WTH?????

Hope Striver chokes on something, what kind of trash does this??? I pray Mrs. c. comes to her senses, that jerk prob knows how to say the "right"things for his own purposes,

Prayers your way C, hope she doens't go.

I'm stunned. This is one of the caziest things I've heard to date.

Striver, you're an A$$.