Some people have even had spouses who participated on this forum.
Don't write off the idea that your H could have an affair. As crazy as it sounds, well established LD people are sometimes HD in another R. You just never know. Just as you have the capacity to grow and change -so does he.
I understand that you are coming from a place of despair right now however, you need to do whatever you can to re-establish your sense of yourself as an autonomous individual, who is unique and has their own unique attractions. You aren't doing either of you any good as long as you believe that you are willing to have an affair but that probably no one will want you. That causes you to look weak, grasping, ineffectual and less attractive. If you don't value you - who will? I'm not saying to run out and have an affair I am saying - take care of yourself, get a haircut, new makeup, clothes, a hobby, flirt a little, make some new friends - find YOU again.
