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Glad to hear you had a good weekend. Have you thought about going to a different C or are you going to stick with the same one?

I think I am going to stick with this one. At least for the time being.

JM, has your counsellor mentioned anything about chronic shock? I was reading about it in my book this weekend and thought of you. I know I suffer from this and this book is really helping me understand the need to focus on my upbringing.

I am having so many "ah-ha" moments reading this book.

You can check it out at Amazon. Heck you can read the whole book there.

Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome

I honestly believe now that I must address past issues or I will never have a healthy relationship with anyone.

Just wanted to stop in and thank you for keeping tabs on my thread. I exist in my own little vacuum most of the time.

I am glad to hear you are seeing some positives! I know the snooping thing is hard when you are insecure and lacking communication!

****chronic shock

No, but she did mention chronic shock and awe....ok a bad joke.

****I honestly believe now that I must address past issues or I will never have a healthy relationship with anyone.

Yeah I do too. That is what is making it so frustrating. I'm thinking about seeing an additional "solution" based C, but if they give me too much conflicting advice, my mind may just turn into mush.

Snoopers Annonymous? how would you know if someone signed up?

LOL, good one WCW.

I can't remember if I mentioned it or not, my counselor suggested I go to a ACOA meeting, but there are none around here. She said the second best thing would be Al-Anon and I just found that there is a meeting on Tuesday nights at 8:00 pm barely 2 miles from my house.

I want to go, and this may sound silly, but I do not know how to tell H that I am going. I can not predict his reaction. I thought about saying I am taking a class, but I do not want to be untruthful. That is totally the opposite of what I want to be. I also do not want to have this ruined for me before I even start.

Any thoughts?

He knows you are in counseling. Just tell him you are going to conseling or a support group your C suggested.

Why not the truth? It might not be the easiest thing to do today, but it will be right in the long run.

NNP1965,
Sorry did not know.