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I remember as a teenager I was told by my parents to stay away from the biker set. There was a cafe near my house that was frequented by the bikers.I was fascinated of course..disobeyed my parents and went for a ride on a Harley with a thoroughly disreputable guy..all I remember was that he had greased back black hair..sideburns etc..like someone out of "Grease"..

I was terrified.

Another flashback..riding in the sidecar with my beloved uncle..not at all terrified.

Have fun Andy.

Duchess

Hi ANS!

Hi Rayanne.

Hope you had a good break from the boards.

Andy

Thanks ANS. Well, you know how it is. Hard to stay away.

I've been trying to bit** a little less about my situation and work on some other issues. I've been taking some classes and trying to get my teaching credentials again. I had let them lapse.
I've also been organizing things around here for a likely move.

Had to come around to get opinions for class and say hi, but still going to try and focus less on this stuff for a while. Just plain need the emotional break. I'm sure you know how that is.
It has done wonders for my PMA!

You have a good day, okay?

rayanne

Andy -- just wanted to pop by and thank you for your wise words and support over in Bedrock. I find that my ability to cope is directly proportional to the amount of calm, male perspective you and others provide. Thank you!

love, wilma

Feeling a little down today.

Maybe it’s because I’m hanging around with all of these hot women (cyberly speaking) – wishing my W was one of them. Maybe it’s because, with all of the comings and goings around my house, I haven’t been able to talk to W much. W’s sleeping through coffee time. She’s going to her parents’ tomorrow – family crisis. Bikes’s sitting in the shed waiting for me to get my license, and I’m starting to fret over whether or not I’ll pass the driving test…

Well. Life goes on. Thanks for the vent.

Andy

Here is some PMA coming. I have read some of your posts on different threads and you always seem to know what needs to be said. That is a gift you should be proud of.

You may have a good opportunity when W returns for good listening and support. Stay ready for that. The crisis might even stir a positive R response from her. Be ready to be positive. Wow, is that corny. I am trying!

Don't sweat the cycle exam, got to be a cake walk compared to being M some days. HAHA Just make sure you have your cycle all polished up. Looks do count.

I have got more than enough PMA today so here comes a pile your way. Boy I wish I had all the cool icons others have.

Thanks again for the attitude adjustment yesterday. A good swift kick on the pants was the right prescription for my problem. Being a wuss is so easily cured.

TBONE

It's possible, Duchess. It's possible because it's what you want. You can pry this out of you.

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Originally posted by Michele on What do I do? I have no sex drive.:

… Furthermore, you need to know something else about sexual desire. research now tells us that if you're sitting around waiting to that BIG SIGN that you're really lusting for your husband before you have sex, you might wait a lifetime. For many, many people, sexual desire doesn't happen that way. Instead, if they're willing to become sexual even if they're not feeling particularly lusty, the sexual stimulation then turns them on and they DESIRE to continue. I can't tell you how many people have told me that they weren't interested in sex, but once they got started, they actually enjoyed themselves. Desire is now believed to FOLLOW stimulation rather than precede it.

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Wish my W would read this.

Thanks for the boost, tbone – and the compliment. I’m not doing so bad, really. We all have our down times, and this is one of mine. The nature of the crisis is such that it isn’t too hard on W, but her parents (esp. her father) need her support. But, you’re right about one thing. I always have to be ready to be positive.

I’m half way through my cycle course, and am still having a lot of difficulties. It’s really precision stuff. Touch the lines, and you lose 3 points… So, I’m gonna sweat it. Can’t help it. But, even if I flunk the first time around, there’s always tomorrow (or in this case 14 days later – that’s the min. waiting period for re-test).

On the bright side, W called me twice today. She always knows when I’m out of sorts. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. The downside is when I’m trying to project PMA. I often fail at this. The upside is that sometimes, she shows compassion, and that’s something I want from her. Not pity, but compassion and consideration.