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PS, I am pretty much ignoring what he said until further notice (and assuming he'll go through with his other plans). That's my other new plan. Rather err on the side of caution.

LeeP

It makes me smile to hear how he suffers. Poooor baaaaaby!

Let the butthead suffer. Keep having fun and get on with things. He can catch up later if your still willing to allow it.

He makes his choice, you make yours. Ain't it nice to know you still have choices?

You sound great so keep it up.

P.S Did you go dancing with JJ cus I did'nt get a call?

My, Kent! Are we a bit jealous, buddy!!

Lee, I LOVE the new management team!!

Thanks guys for all the happy faces!

H is laying it on thick. He sent me email and called me from his business trip last night. Don't get me wrong, I'm enjoying it! I'm just acting like he's a good friend and my "new management" is helping me keep a little emotional distance. H knows it's there and why. I'm going to a work party tonight so I won't be around ...

No, Kent, I didn't call JJ- I'm practicing up for you two I've been hanging out with a group of male friends (H's friends, too) for some time now... he gets nervous but there's this code thing with them that none of them would dare come too close, anyway. I seem to like stirring up innocent trouble a little.

LeeP

"I've been hanging out with a group of male friends (H's friends, too) for some time now... he gets nervous but there's this code thing with them that none of them would dare come too close, anyway."

Are you sure about that?

More importantly, is HE sure of this? If he IS, then why the hell is he nervous?

You're doing GREAT, girlfriend! Keep up the strength and confidence, and have yourself a blast!!!

P.S. Kent, just because you've got a bad leg doesn't mean I'm gonna let you get away with taking all the slow dances!!

[ March 24, 2002, 07:37 PM: Message edited by: KentS ]

Well, rest assured, my friend, that since I now know that, I'll never do anything to come between the two of you!!

...Speaking of "codes" between friends...

LeeP

OK, I cleaned-up my act! Well, maybe a little.

[ March 24, 2002, 07:38 PM: Message edited by: KentS ]

Little update from the "new management"....

Things have been holding steady here... H is still planning to win me over. I am still protecting myself. I have been quite sick for two weeks (I just get better and bang! another round of the flu.) Despite the weakened state, trying to be strong It's the first time I've been hearing he'll "do anything to win me back" and he'll prove it. My skepticism doesn't seem to scare him off.

He is apparently willing to leave ow for good, knowing I may still not take him back. He's doing it next week (in person), but when he says this, I do not want it to sink in... I am NOT going through another 6 months of "will he or won't he end it with her" agony.

I see that when I take a little step towards him right now I feel really nervous and then back off, seems I finally get the "pursuer" and "distancer" thing. (I guess three times will do that to you).

We'll see, I guess. Stay tuned

LeeP

[ April 01, 2002, 09:42 AM: Message edited by: LeeP ]