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Why he game home Part 1.
First of all God gets all the Glory for this opportunity of restoration!

I am just going to write a little at a time, as I am not pressing him for information. I am listening as he volunteers it.

God was working on him in ways I could not see. I did not know God's plan, but he had one.
* H hated where he was staying. He first stayed with his parents and then moved into one of those extended stay hotels. He missed the comforts of home and missed me (even though he did not show it at ALL.)
* He was spending time with his adult children and some of their friends were having marital problems. His advice to them was "work it out...all M's have problems" He thought about how he was giving advice he was not following and he felt bad about himself.
* He ran into a mutual friend of ours who has been seperated since Nov. The friend was saying how he missed his WAW and how, even though his W had some problems, he wanted his M to work and wanted to support his W.
* One of his friends, who has been a bachelor (the Charlie Sheen type on 2 1/2 men) asked his girlfriend to marry him.

God was putting the right people and situations in his life. I kept thinking "what can I do?" How is going dark going to make a difference. Going dark was giving him space and allowing God to work on him. Being patient is hard, especially when the divorce is nearing and the clock is ticking louder and faster.

Psalms 138:7-8
Though I am surrounded by troubles, you will bring me safely through them. You will clench your fist against my enemies! Your power will save me. The Lord will work out his plans for my life- for your lovingkindness, Lord, continues forever. Don't abandon me- for you made me.

thanks for sharing that - it's so valuable to know what brings them back, especially when what we're doing doesn't appear to be visible to them.
My H has spent the last 2 weeks in a foreign hotel (where he usually lives during the week) but this weekend will be staying with his mum in a 4 bed house with 4 adults and 2 children, including his own daughter (my step daughter) and his sister who is a WAW.
Doesn't sound like much fun to me!

No, it doesn't sound like much fun. How does his family react to the situation? Are they supportive of your marriage? Does he have good filters on his ears?
My H and I have discussed a couple of issues in detail over the past two days. He is not claming up as he would have done in the past. He does not like conflict. (not just arguements- but disagreements.) I said to him that we have to discuss our issues in order to resolve them, we can't just ice everything over. The most important thing for me right now is to work on us establishing unity in our M and not let anyone or anything getbetween us. He agrees, although when it comes down to it, I am anxious to see if he will stand by his words. I am preparing myself on how to handle the situation if he doesn't and not get angry. He is still willing to work on it 100%. He is going to church with me tomorrow! He offered. I am very pleased about that and praise God!

My H's family are supportive of our marriage - the split was a big shock to them (as it was to me!). I just worry that they'll be pessimistic about our chances of getting back together. His mum divorced his dad and his sister is a WAW. Whereas in my family my dad had a MLC and my parents were separated for a year, but got through it and have been happily married ever since.