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If you are db'ing as best you can, your are seperated from your spouse but you want to save the marriage, spouse is almost done with EA, do you still wear your ring if your spouse doesn't..Right now I am trying to be the very best friend and it working but is like climbing a mountain. Sometimes you see the peak and then your feet and knocked right out from underneath you from and avalanche you didn't cause.

Sorry you are here. Is there more to your story?

As for the ring, I think you do what you like. I wore mine the entire time we were going through this, while my W never wore hers.

GH

Grasshopper, my situation is very similiar to yours. Don't know how to describe situation specifics without parties involved finding this post. I believe other person might be looking for advice here also to save thier marriage.

So you think your spouse is here, or the OP's spouse is here? Wow.

GH

My H doesn't wear his. I took mine off when there were all sorts of drama going on...I'm still faithful, it's just that the reminder is painful for me.

I still wear mine. Hubby took his off the day I confronted him about his affair. I haven't seen him since then (1 week) but I'm sure he's still not wearing it.

I think OP and possibly my spouse might be here looking for advice. There is only slight verbal contact between them now about the OP marriage sit, nothing else about the A. I see progress being made towards all contact ending about the A, but progress is being made in our R. I was just wondering wether it was productive towards the final goal to wear the ring or not. My spouse already knows where I stand
about out R. I am not giving any future talk.

I took my wedding ring off the day he walked out the door. My WAH had already removed his, made his A easier I guess. I went back and forth on this issue, but I always wore it, so if he notices me doing the opposite by not wearing it, I'll consider it a successful 180!

-Jules

I took my wedding ring off when he left. He had quit wearing his a year before due to work reasons supposedly and he could lose a finger lol. Funny that is when the A began. I have another diamond band he gave me for our 10th anniversary and it fits on my middle finger best now since the bomb diet but sometimes I wear it on my wedding finger. Depends the mood or the situation I may be in. After 3 months of wearing no ring I have put it on. I wonder what h thinks of that.

I took my engagement ring off when I realized we were only married in name only. [He had already taken his off] I took my wedding band off when I found out about the affair.

Now that we are reconciling I will not wear them until I feel safe. And we have some sort of meaningful moment where we completely recommit to each other. Right now he is still out of the house. Working on things yet we are nowhere near the place we need to be in order for me to accept him wholeheartedly as my life partner. When I put them on again it will be because I have the same hope and trust that I had when I was given both of them.